A recent column by Dr. John Rosemond has a Q & A about a 5-yr-old and 7-yr-old fighting in the car and at home constantly. He recommends saying nothing to them in the car, and once you're at home, "... take one of them by the hand and take him to his room. Say nothing more than "This is where you are spending the rest of the day. I'm even going to serve you your dinner in here. Oh, and you are going to bed, lights out, at 7:30." Then do the same with the other child. When they ask 'WHYYYYYYYY?????" just smile and say, "I'm solving MY problem: I hope you solve yours." Say no more. This is supposed to achieve results anywhere from 2 days to 2 wks. He also comments, "...but none of your friends will approve, so when they ask why you're so chipper and devil-may-care, just tell them you're on a new medication or something." LOL! Hey, it's taken medications to reach the point where I CAN do such a thing calmly, over and over again. You have to have nerves of steel to put up with-the meltdown and door kicking, spitting, and screaming that will ensue. However, he is right. The consistency and calmness counts. And it will achieve results. We're still inconsistent. And difficult child is over and above the typical sibling rivalry stuff he writes about. Do you think Rosemond would move in with-us if we paid him enough?