mama2three
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Thank you all for being so supportive. We actually had a great day yesterday. My Grandma had a special birthday dinner for her and my Dad who's birthdays are only a few days apart. She was being induldged as you should be on your party! So that made for a great night. It was so nice compared to the early week/weekend we had.
A close family friend of our who was at the dinner is a counsler. We began talking about it and she said that I definitly need to have her seen asap. She like you all said early invention is key. She was thinking Rae is more along the line of ODD?
My Grandma is the one who baby-sits my younger two while I work. My DS1 comes to the school I work at! But, when mention of this came up my grandma got severly upset with us talking about the problems we have been having. A little backround on this situation. My grandma also is rasing my 15 y/o cousin who has some issues as well. Her mom has some serious serious emotional issues which led to my grandma getting custody of my cousin. Anywho, My cousin has erradic behaviors. Severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), ADHD, Bi-polar. It's sad because she is very smart beautiful. My grandma was in denial about it untill a recent suicide attempt my cousin made. I hope I'm not putting too much out there but to fully understand what i'm getting at you need backround.
When me and the counsler were talking about Rae and her behaviors, my grandma began grasping at anything she could think of to explain what was causing this. Everything from what she eats, to where she sleeps, to Langauge issues. I was really upset with her because all of the things she was basically accusing me of we things I control in my home. She told me that she doesn't act out while with her only rarely if she is tired. I felt like she was saying it my fault I see these behaviors. Then I realized that this isn't me. Because i'm the kind of mom who when I say no it means no thats when we have issues. My grandma is very very submissive as she was with my younger cousin. She gives in to any demands and never say no. She makes "deals" like instead of eating whats on your plate to get dessert its, come on sweetie please take one more bite then you have have all the dessert. Am I wrong? It should not be that way? Adults are the ones in charge not the kid. Especially a child who has these tendencies? Its also my SO any mention that Rae may have some kind of problems he totally disreguards me, blows me off, and tells me I should never say things like that about our daughter. The only people who really see it are my Dad and Mom. I think that is because they dealt with my older brother with similar problems.
ahhhh Ok I feel alot better about that. I can't tell you how much better I already feel. I still feel like I, myself am in a little bit of denial? Like am I just overreacting? But, I feel in my heart i'm not. It's not every single day we have issues but atleast 5 out of 7 days a week. Sometimes multiple issues in one day.
One question should I make an appointment now? I have just started making documentation. Will I be dismissed if I don't have enough? The family friend also suggested a child phsycologist? Any thoughts?
Thanks again For making me feel at home!
Ashlee
A close family friend of our who was at the dinner is a counsler. We began talking about it and she said that I definitly need to have her seen asap. She like you all said early invention is key. She was thinking Rae is more along the line of ODD?
My Grandma is the one who baby-sits my younger two while I work. My DS1 comes to the school I work at! But, when mention of this came up my grandma got severly upset with us talking about the problems we have been having. A little backround on this situation. My grandma also is rasing my 15 y/o cousin who has some issues as well. Her mom has some serious serious emotional issues which led to my grandma getting custody of my cousin. Anywho, My cousin has erradic behaviors. Severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), ADHD, Bi-polar. It's sad because she is very smart beautiful. My grandma was in denial about it untill a recent suicide attempt my cousin made. I hope I'm not putting too much out there but to fully understand what i'm getting at you need backround.
When me and the counsler were talking about Rae and her behaviors, my grandma began grasping at anything she could think of to explain what was causing this. Everything from what she eats, to where she sleeps, to Langauge issues. I was really upset with her because all of the things she was basically accusing me of we things I control in my home. She told me that she doesn't act out while with her only rarely if she is tired. I felt like she was saying it my fault I see these behaviors. Then I realized that this isn't me. Because i'm the kind of mom who when I say no it means no thats when we have issues. My grandma is very very submissive as she was with my younger cousin. She gives in to any demands and never say no. She makes "deals" like instead of eating whats on your plate to get dessert its, come on sweetie please take one more bite then you have have all the dessert. Am I wrong? It should not be that way? Adults are the ones in charge not the kid. Especially a child who has these tendencies? Its also my SO any mention that Rae may have some kind of problems he totally disreguards me, blows me off, and tells me I should never say things like that about our daughter. The only people who really see it are my Dad and Mom. I think that is because they dealt with my older brother with similar problems.
ahhhh Ok I feel alot better about that. I can't tell you how much better I already feel. I still feel like I, myself am in a little bit of denial? Like am I just overreacting? But, I feel in my heart i'm not. It's not every single day we have issues but atleast 5 out of 7 days a week. Sometimes multiple issues in one day.
One question should I make an appointment now? I have just started making documentation. Will I be dismissed if I don't have enough? The family friend also suggested a child phsycologist? Any thoughts?
Thanks again For making me feel at home!
Ashlee