Rough Morning

[ML]

Ok well it actually started last night. Manster and I took his friend R's mom out for her 40th birthday to a sushi place. It was R, her mom T and older sister J.

R likes to instigate and manster is highly sensitive, sometimes a bad combination. Anyway, R sat next to me and manster was upset and they fought till manster gave in like always. I didn't think it was a big deal. But R and I shared a meal and overall it wasn't as bad as those restaurant outings used to be.

Well on the way home all I heard was how I liked R more than him, I shared food with her, made comments about how nice she was, etc. which he takes and insults against him somehow. I guess most kids, especially our kids are pretty self absorbed lol. He was mad and let me know it.

This morning he started back on it. How I obviously like R more than him, he hates sharing the people in his life, life is so unfair to him etc. A real meltdown. As we neared school (this was in the car) he pulled it together because he didn't want anyone to see him cry and make fun of him.

A lot of days go by and I question whether he really has AS and then days like today remind me. I'm scared as I think about his navigating the world some day. But all I can do is take it one day at a time and give the rest over to my HP.

 

[Shari]

I"m sorry you had such a rough morning. IT breaks my heart when I hear difficult child say how no one loves him and he wishes he were normal so others would like him. Its hard.

Many hugs.

 

[Janna]

It's so black and white. That's what it sounds like. D's the same way in many ways. And, no - no sharing.

I'm sorry he doesn't get it. I hope he's over it now.

 

[Jena]

hi i'm sorry your morning was rough, and yup difficult child does the same thing. i cna't look at another kid with-o getting the nasty comments from her. these kids have no filtering process they really don't. their soo soo sensitive. right?

he knows deep down you love him.

((((hugs)))

 

[TerryJ2]

Sigh. So sorry.

Reading your note, it just occurred to me that the reason my difficult child is not intent upon getting easy child back home with-us is that now he has us all to himself. Hmmm.

 

[timer lady]

Oh....this sounds so familiar. Our difficult children struggle so when we show positive emotions toward children other than themselves. It's so hard for them to share us & yet the next minute they are screaming how much they hate us & hope we die.

Take all this with a grain of salt if you can. Thank your difficult child for sharing his feelings & go about your day. It really shortens the meltdown & saves me a great deal of emotional energy.

I hope today is a much better day for you & your difficult child.

 

[tiredmommy]

Duckie does this too. It breaks my heart because a little part of me is concerned that she thinks this way because of her behavior and I would prefer a different child than her. It makes me sad that she's so insecure that she thinks I would trade her. So I just reassure her and point out all the times the other mom's are nice to her too.

I hope today is easier for you and manster.