Well after a terrific week at school and several weeks of relatively good behavior difficult child has ended up at crisis respite for the night.
difficult child came with husband and me to the grocery store. He was all over husband-and then started elbowing him at one point when he could not get what he wanted. We told that meant "Stop the World". Of course, he argued, no it wasn't, he was still going to eat dessert, etc...
He didn't like that we wouldn't change our mind. He purposefully "bumped" into me. Then when we were walking to the car I told husband to watch difficult child, that I could tell he was looking around to see if anyone was watching (very deliberate tonight-it isn't always so). When I was putting groceries into the trunk he pushed the trunk down. It did hurt even though he didn't slam it on me.
Once we told him it was crisis respite he said it was an accident. husband told difficult child no it wasn't. difficult child then said he was going to runaway-walked a few cars away. Then he came and started kicking and pounding on the car. I thought at one point he was going to break the side view mirror. It took a long time-probably 20 minutes or more before he finally got him in the car.
By the time we got him to crisis respite-this time it was about 30-35 miles away, he was sleeping. It is so hard to do this but we know this is what is needed. Poor husband, he actually had tears tonight. He blamed himself, said he should have gone to the store by himself. I said no, that we can't always know how difficult child will be-he has been doing better and there was no way to predict.
Right now, I'm feeling exhausted. It's been a long week at work and now this tonight. My back is fine exept every so often I get a flash of pain.
I'm hoping he'll get right back on track tomorrow when he comes home. Sigh...
difficult child came with husband and me to the grocery store. He was all over husband-and then started elbowing him at one point when he could not get what he wanted. We told that meant "Stop the World". Of course, he argued, no it wasn't, he was still going to eat dessert, etc...
He didn't like that we wouldn't change our mind. He purposefully "bumped" into me. Then when we were walking to the car I told husband to watch difficult child, that I could tell he was looking around to see if anyone was watching (very deliberate tonight-it isn't always so). When I was putting groceries into the trunk he pushed the trunk down. It did hurt even though he didn't slam it on me.
Once we told him it was crisis respite he said it was an accident. husband told difficult child no it wasn't. difficult child then said he was going to runaway-walked a few cars away. Then he came and started kicking and pounding on the car. I thought at one point he was going to break the side view mirror. It took a long time-probably 20 minutes or more before he finally got him in the car.
By the time we got him to crisis respite-this time it was about 30-35 miles away, he was sleeping. It is so hard to do this but we know this is what is needed. Poor husband, he actually had tears tonight. He blamed himself, said he should have gone to the store by himself. I said no, that we can't always know how difficult child will be-he has been doing better and there was no way to predict.
Right now, I'm feeling exhausted. It's been a long week at work and now this tonight. My back is fine exept every so often I get a flash of pain.
I'm hoping he'll get right back on track tomorrow when he comes home. Sigh...