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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 676411" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Yes A dad, I see your point. We do have different ways of behaving in front of our families, show more of our true feelings and selves. The difference being, this young mother is<em> living in her parents home. </em>Not helping, setting conditions, not paying anything, and acting disrespectfully to her mother. That is a bit over the top, from being grouchy from time to time. Mood swings, tired, yes, that is normal. But from what I read here, it is a routine thing. One of my favorite quotes is "What you allow, will continue." My son, is 14. He is a pretty respectful kid. Once in a while, he can get a bit "uppity" so, I will tell him,"I understand you are frustrated, but I am your mother, and you need to tone it down, you have crossed a line." He apologizes. There has to be some boundaries to how one treats ones parents. Yes, people get moody, but, there is still that <em>line</em>. Most of us learned this growing up. I think this is the problem in todays society, lack of respect, kids feeling entitled, crossing lines and boundaries we would never dare cross. There has to be a limit in what is allowed. We would not allow a stranger to treat us badly, why should our adult kids, living in our homes, be able to? I do understand what you are saying A dad, and respect your opinion, but from my own experience, each line that was crossed,<em> set the bar lower for behavior</em>, the next time. We accommodated our adult daughter, because we wanted our grands to have a chance. She ended up, more and more brazen, with her actions, and attitude. It became like a testing ground. I have found, that in this instance, adult kids start to treat family members worse than they treat friends, or even strangers. In my book, this is JMO, that is unacceptable. I will not ever walk on eggshells in my own home for any of my children, or grands for that matter. Maybe I am strict, or old fashioned, <em>but I like the old values and way of living.</em> I like the idea that there are rules for treating others, and that we should treat family members, especially those that help us, with decency and respect. If we do not expect this in our own homes, how are we to have peace, and how are the grandchildren supposed to learn how to be kind, courteous, polite and respectful themselves? These are all rules of society, that kids learn, within the home. If they do not learn this by example of parents and grandparents, then they are going to have a hard time out there in the world. Okay, whew sorry you got me on a soap box with that one <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/soapbox.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":soapbox:" title="soapbox :soapbox:" data-shortname=":soapbox:" /> . One big reason I am passionate about this, is that my grandchildren have not been raised with boundaries, taught manners and respect by their parents. The end result of it is, they do not know how to act nicely in restaurants, in our home, fight and <em>destroy things</em>. Every time we have had them, we have had to "deprogram" this out of them. They are decent kids, I love them dearly, <em>but they are very mixed up</em>, as a result of all of this craziness from their parents, no boundaries, not taught to respect their elders...... I think this is very different from letting our guard down, passing gas in front of family, etc. I get that A dad, but the other stuff, rudeness, disrespect and ignoring people, UGH! Sorry so long, that one touched a nerve. I do get what you are saying, just experienced way too much........leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 676411, member: 19522"] Yes A dad, I see your point. We do have different ways of behaving in front of our families, show more of our true feelings and selves. The difference being, this young mother is[I] living in her parents home. [/I]Not helping, setting conditions, not paying anything, and acting disrespectfully to her mother. That is a bit over the top, from being grouchy from time to time. Mood swings, tired, yes, that is normal. But from what I read here, it is a routine thing. One of my favorite quotes is "What you allow, will continue." My son, is 14. He is a pretty respectful kid. Once in a while, he can get a bit "uppity" so, I will tell him,"I understand you are frustrated, but I am your mother, and you need to tone it down, you have crossed a line." He apologizes. There has to be some boundaries to how one treats ones parents. Yes, people get moody, but, there is still that [I]line[/I]. Most of us learned this growing up. I think this is the problem in todays society, lack of respect, kids feeling entitled, crossing lines and boundaries we would never dare cross. There has to be a limit in what is allowed. We would not allow a stranger to treat us badly, why should our adult kids, living in our homes, be able to? I do understand what you are saying A dad, and respect your opinion, but from my own experience, each line that was crossed,[I] set the bar lower for behavior[/I], the next time. We accommodated our adult daughter, because we wanted our grands to have a chance. She ended up, more and more brazen, with her actions, and attitude. It became like a testing ground. I have found, that in this instance, adult kids start to treat family members worse than they treat friends, or even strangers. In my book, this is JMO, that is unacceptable. I will not ever walk on eggshells in my own home for any of my children, or grands for that matter. Maybe I am strict, or old fashioned, [I]but I like the old values and way of living.[/I] I like the idea that there are rules for treating others, and that we should treat family members, especially those that help us, with decency and respect. If we do not expect this in our own homes, how are we to have peace, and how are the grandchildren supposed to learn how to be kind, courteous, polite and respectful themselves? These are all rules of society, that kids learn, within the home. If they do not learn this by example of parents and grandparents, then they are going to have a hard time out there in the world. Okay, whew sorry you got me on a soap box with that one :soapbox: . One big reason I am passionate about this, is that my grandchildren have not been raised with boundaries, taught manners and respect by their parents. The end result of it is, they do not know how to act nicely in restaurants, in our home, fight and [I]destroy things[/I]. Every time we have had them, we have had to "deprogram" this out of them. They are decent kids, I love them dearly, [I]but they are very mixed up[/I], as a result of all of this craziness from their parents, no boundaries, not taught to respect their elders...... I think this is very different from letting our guard down, passing gas in front of family, etc. I get that A dad, but the other stuff, rudeness, disrespect and ignoring people, UGH! Sorry so long, that one touched a nerve. I do get what you are saying, just experienced way too much........leafy [/QUOTE]
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