V had Occupational Therapist (OT) this morning and I was really caught off guard when he started acting up with his therapist. Not listening, leaving to an other side of the room, shouting at her to help clean up when she in fact was cleaning up with him, etc... real non sense. A couple times I interveined but I let her handle it for the most part.
She has seen him this way but this time we both did not expect it (no Partner around, no K-camp, no obvious triger).
She commented that it was like the behavior you would expect of a 2 year old testing limits.
I was quite upset by his whole behavior and decided to cancel our little shopping trip (find a surprise for Partner who is coming back) and explained that I could not handle going out in public with him acting this way. I said we would do it later today when he calms down a bit.
I'm not too crazy about punishing, but today I said no TV for the rest of the day and made him write a sorry note to the Occupational Therapist (OT) and he will give it to her next week.
We went over what he did, why it was wrong and why he acted this way. His answers: I did not listen to Ms. C, I hurt her feeling with my behavior, I did it because I wanted to do what I wanted to do.
I also made him work with me around the house (wash the deck and front porch with soap, water and sponges
) and he did pretty good. I did not say this was a consequence of his behavior, I just wanted to turn things around.
Right now he is asking every five minutes when we are going shopping... "when Dad gets home", I hope he comes home soon! Because I need an extra hand when V is in this bad mood.
I am so tired of this emotional roller coaster, V can be so nice and pleasant and some other days...grrrrr, just a pain.
Our lives are always changing and I feel he reacts to every little change so much. My family is coming back tomorrow: could it be a triger? And even if it is... it is just a fact: life changes and it will not stop for V.
husband is quite frustrated about it as well, all those therapies and all we've accomplished so far is to change ourselves and our environment to help him cope a bit better. V is the same. To make things worse, V forgets everything. I swear, one day he will forget to breath. I used to have this big board on the side of his bed to remind him of what he needs to do. But then he forgets to look at it. Every day, for month: "look at your board" and always the same answer "I forgot"....
V will lose his insurance soon and it will be quite expenses to cover his therapies. I almost want to say the he77 with all that.
Now husband is really double guessing our decision to put him in Kindergarten. Personally, I almost want things to really blow up so MAYBE we/V can get some help.
I'm sure there is harder kids than V, it's just that nothing seem to stick with him...
Sorry for the vent...
She has seen him this way but this time we both did not expect it (no Partner around, no K-camp, no obvious triger).
She commented that it was like the behavior you would expect of a 2 year old testing limits.
I was quite upset by his whole behavior and decided to cancel our little shopping trip (find a surprise for Partner who is coming back) and explained that I could not handle going out in public with him acting this way. I said we would do it later today when he calms down a bit.
I'm not too crazy about punishing, but today I said no TV for the rest of the day and made him write a sorry note to the Occupational Therapist (OT) and he will give it to her next week.
We went over what he did, why it was wrong and why he acted this way. His answers: I did not listen to Ms. C, I hurt her feeling with my behavior, I did it because I wanted to do what I wanted to do.
I also made him work with me around the house (wash the deck and front porch with soap, water and sponges
) and he did pretty good. I did not say this was a consequence of his behavior, I just wanted to turn things around.Right now he is asking every five minutes when we are going shopping... "when Dad gets home", I hope he comes home soon! Because I need an extra hand when V is in this bad mood.
I am so tired of this emotional roller coaster, V can be so nice and pleasant and some other days...grrrrr, just a pain.
Our lives are always changing and I feel he reacts to every little change so much. My family is coming back tomorrow: could it be a triger? And even if it is... it is just a fact: life changes and it will not stop for V.
husband is quite frustrated about it as well, all those therapies and all we've accomplished so far is to change ourselves and our environment to help him cope a bit better. V is the same. To make things worse, V forgets everything. I swear, one day he will forget to breath. I used to have this big board on the side of his bed to remind him of what he needs to do. But then he forgets to look at it. Every day, for month: "look at your board" and always the same answer "I forgot"....
V will lose his insurance soon and it will be quite expenses to cover his therapies. I almost want to say the he77 with all that.
Now husband is really double guessing our decision to put him in Kindergarten. Personally, I almost want things to really blow up so MAYBE we/V can get some help.
I'm sure there is harder kids than V, it's just that nothing seem to stick with him...
Sorry for the vent...
