My difficult child was spotted last night by his previous youth pastor, Chris (he ran 120 miles away to where we lived for 2 years). Chris called the police and followed difficult child until they picked him up. difficult child wouldn't talk to Chris (or anyone else). They took him to Juvenile Hall and is extremely angry right now and doesn't want to talk to us either. In a couple of days they'll transport him back to San Diego - he's in El Centro right now. His court date will be on Monday or Tuesday. Any ideas on what they will recommend?
I desperately had wanted him to come home on his own because I thought it would be better for him mentally, but on the other hand I'm glad he's safe. I don't know how to help him. I don't understand him at all - we've given him a good, calm, loving, supportive home but he continues to make such stupid choices. I just don't get it.
Any thoughts on what I should say to him when I see him and how/where to get the help he needs?
He's been to a psychiatrist before (July-Sept. 2009) but without even talking to him started him on all these medications for ADD (doctor also thinks he's bipolar but only wanted to treat the ADD for now). Nothing made a difference and it frustrated me that the doctor just sat there with his prescription pad doling out medicine without taking ANY time to talk to difficult child. Did I just pick a bad doctor or is that how it goes?
I think I've been in denial about his mental illess (you'd think that when he robbed a convenience store at gunpoint last year because he was frustrated about having no money that I'd get it, but...). I just want him to be "normal" - grow up, get a job, have a family, etc. I DON'T WANT THIS FOR HIM!
Thanks for listening - I feel like I've finally found people who understand and that's priceless.
I desperately had wanted him to come home on his own because I thought it would be better for him mentally, but on the other hand I'm glad he's safe. I don't know how to help him. I don't understand him at all - we've given him a good, calm, loving, supportive home but he continues to make such stupid choices. I just don't get it.
Any thoughts on what I should say to him when I see him and how/where to get the help he needs?
He's been to a psychiatrist before (July-Sept. 2009) but without even talking to him started him on all these medications for ADD (doctor also thinks he's bipolar but only wanted to treat the ADD for now). Nothing made a difference and it frustrated me that the doctor just sat there with his prescription pad doling out medicine without taking ANY time to talk to difficult child. Did I just pick a bad doctor or is that how it goes?
I think I've been in denial about his mental illess (you'd think that when he robbed a convenience store at gunpoint last year because he was frustrated about having no money that I'd get it, but...). I just want him to be "normal" - grow up, get a job, have a family, etc. I DON'T WANT THIS FOR HIM!
Thanks for listening - I feel like I've finally found people who understand and that's priceless.