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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 739139" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you, Copa. If your mother loved your sister, and I assume she did, I can not imagine her not being there for your mother at the end, never knowing where she rests. Sad.</p><p></p><p>I dont miss my mother. She didnt love me, Copa. She never loved me, not even as an infant. And I did nothing that was so awful a normal mother would have not loved me.</p><p></p><p>I went to my mothers funeral and had to look sad. I still remember how weird it was to be there.</p><p> I went to comfort others only, which means my sister and me were "on" at the time. But I felt very much as if I had grieved my mother a decade before her death. I still would want to know where she lies and i do but I will never visit her grave in this life, not that I feel she is still there. My fathers grave I plan to visit, although his spirit is elsewhere.</p><p></p><p>I think your sister did.not love your mother. I dont know why but feel you can only not visit, not want to know if the person abused you and there is no love. I know your mother loved her. I dont understand your sister's actions. I dont know your story with your sister either but I trust that it was not your fault, that you did not do anything mean to her.</p><p></p><p>Copa, and I say this with a sad smile, internet pictures can make anyone look good. Maybe she doesnt look good. Perhaps she is vain and got a facelift. I always assume my sister uses some of her inheritance for all sorts of beauty enhancements. She is nearing 60 and is very very interested in looking hot. The preoccupation with appearance and body image is part of anorexia. I get it.</p><p></p><p> I could have gotten face and body enhancements and you could have too.</p><p></p><p>Your sister may suffer but not let you know. I am sure mine does. I didnt cause it...it was her own life choices and the coldness of my mother towards her as an infant and child caused her attachment disorder which I read she has been diagnosed with when I still read her posts on another site. My mother gutted all of us so that two of her three kids could not have a normal love relationship/family. Mother is the reason for her childrens many failed or bad relationships, even if I am the only one who knows about attachments (shrug). And my first husband was not a loving match either...we both got lucky with my current hub and your M.</p><p></p><p>Copa, everyone does what they do for different reasons. You were so kind to your mother. And she is still with you and always will be.</p><p></p><p>Let your sister go. I have not read a forum on the internet except this one for ages. No more reading my sister. Its really taken a weight off my shoulders.Our sisters are not our problems. Our own lives are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 739139, member: 1550"] Thank you, Copa. If your mother loved your sister, and I assume she did, I can not imagine her not being there for your mother at the end, never knowing where she rests. Sad. I dont miss my mother. She didnt love me, Copa. She never loved me, not even as an infant. And I did nothing that was so awful a normal mother would have not loved me. I went to my mothers funeral and had to look sad. I still remember how weird it was to be there. I went to comfort others only, which means my sister and me were "on" at the time. But I felt very much as if I had grieved my mother a decade before her death. I still would want to know where she lies and i do but I will never visit her grave in this life, not that I feel she is still there. My fathers grave I plan to visit, although his spirit is elsewhere. I think your sister did.not love your mother. I dont know why but feel you can only not visit, not want to know if the person abused you and there is no love. I know your mother loved her. I dont understand your sister's actions. I dont know your story with your sister either but I trust that it was not your fault, that you did not do anything mean to her. Copa, and I say this with a sad smile, internet pictures can make anyone look good. Maybe she doesnt look good. Perhaps she is vain and got a facelift. I always assume my sister uses some of her inheritance for all sorts of beauty enhancements. She is nearing 60 and is very very interested in looking hot. The preoccupation with appearance and body image is part of anorexia. I get it. I could have gotten face and body enhancements and you could have too. Your sister may suffer but not let you know. I am sure mine does. I didnt cause it...it was her own life choices and the coldness of my mother towards her as an infant and child caused her attachment disorder which I read she has been diagnosed with when I still read her posts on another site. My mother gutted all of us so that two of her three kids could not have a normal love relationship/family. Mother is the reason for her childrens many failed or bad relationships, even if I am the only one who knows about attachments (shrug). And my first husband was not a loving match either...we both got lucky with my current hub and your M. Copa, everyone does what they do for different reasons. You were so kind to your mother. And she is still with you and always will be. Let your sister go. I have not read a forum on the internet except this one for ages. No more reading my sister. Its really taken a weight off my shoulders.Our sisters are not our problems. Our own lives are. [/QUOTE]
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