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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 673946" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi </p><p></p><p>I agree with everybody else. Give her all the love and non-tangible support you can. But not in your home and not financially. I would not encourage you to help her move closer to you. In our case, it was a disaster.</p><p></p><p>Let her take the first steps. That is, get clean and complete a treatment program. Let her get a place and a job.</p><p></p><p>She got herself into this mess. The only thing that works is for her to use available resources to clean herself up.</p><p></p><p>As I understand it, Meth is among the hardest substances to kick. As do many drugs, it alters the brain chemistry. While people do recover, the symptoms can linger for a long time. That makes it harder, because there is a withdrawal, and then after that symptoms can continue which can include hallucinations and mood instability.</p><p></p><p>That said, thousands upon thousands of people quit. But in my experience, this is not something you can support. The individual has to face it down themselves. This is the realm of experts. Not parents who love her.</p><p></p><p>It may not make it easier that she has a companion. Because that means that the weakness of one, may weaken the other. That is another reason to stay as far away as you can. For now.</p><p></p><p>As parents, it is very easy to do things for the wrong reasons. The pain of letting them flail, and possibly fail. Guilt. That we are not doing <em>something</em>. Fear, of what could happen next.</p><p></p><p>The hard thing to get is that all these things are the wrong reason to get involve and make it harder not easier for our kids to resolve their issues. We get in the way.</p><p></p><p>We want to <em>do</em> something.</p><p></p><p>In the situations in which we find ourselves the most loving thing to do is to let them do it themselves. To love them but not to rescue them.</p><p></p><p>I have made these mistakes so many times. It is the hardest thing not to help. Each time I do I make a huge mess.</p><p></p><p>You will find support and understanding here. And excellent counsel. It is life changing and life saving to post.So keep posting.</p><p></p><p>Take care. We wish you the best. Remember: You do not have to do anything to prove you are a loving parent.</p><p></p><p>You <em>are</em> a loving parent. Know that and take heart.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 673946, member: 18958"] Hi I agree with everybody else. Give her all the love and non-tangible support you can. But not in your home and not financially. I would not encourage you to help her move closer to you. In our case, it was a disaster. Let her take the first steps. That is, get clean and complete a treatment program. Let her get a place and a job. She got herself into this mess. The only thing that works is for her to use available resources to clean herself up. As I understand it, Meth is among the hardest substances to kick. As do many drugs, it alters the brain chemistry. While people do recover, the symptoms can linger for a long time. That makes it harder, because there is a withdrawal, and then after that symptoms can continue which can include hallucinations and mood instability. That said, thousands upon thousands of people quit. But in my experience, this is not something you can support. The individual has to face it down themselves. This is the realm of experts. Not parents who love her. It may not make it easier that she has a companion. Because that means that the weakness of one, may weaken the other. That is another reason to stay as far away as you can. For now. As parents, it is very easy to do things for the wrong reasons. The pain of letting them flail, and possibly fail. Guilt. That we are not doing [I]something[/I]. Fear, of what could happen next. The hard thing to get is that all these things are the wrong reason to get involve and make it harder not easier for our kids to resolve their issues. We get in the way. We want to [I]do[/I] something. In the situations in which we find ourselves the most loving thing to do is to let them do it themselves. To love them but not to rescue them. I have made these mistakes so many times. It is the hardest thing not to help. Each time I do I make a huge mess. You will find support and understanding here. And excellent counsel. It is life changing and life saving to post.So keep posting. Take care. We wish you the best. Remember: You do not have to do anything to prove you are a loving parent. You [I]are[/I] a loving parent. Know that and take heart. COPA [/QUOTE]
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