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Sad in Florida with question about Christmas
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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 674911" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>He has no respect for us and I am sure will be crying at end of month when reality hits and he has to leave their house. Most gifts he could sell or trade and money isn't something I would give him at all. Should I just ignore Christmas at this point and return the gifts? He did this exact same scenario last Christmas.</p></blockquote><p></p><p>I so am where you are. My 30 year old son has managed to miss or ruin Christmas many times with his blaming and disrespect. The holidays make it more difficult as well as my picturing him as the child he was and the wonderful Christmases that we had. When I do that, I try to come back to reality because the truth is that he is a grown man now who continues to choose to do things his way and shows little concern for the pain and abuse he causes our family. He just sent me a card from prison asking when I am going to put his Christmas $ on his account. I probably will, which is an indication of the work I still need to do, but I am choosing not to beat myself about it. I, at least, can be compassionate to myself as I work to become stronger. One thing I am working on is caring about myself as much as I care about my son. I don't think my son spends much energy thinking about doing anything for me, only about what he needs to do to keep me hooked in. My thoughts are with you.</p><p>[/QUOTE]</p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 674911, member: 19832"] He has no respect for us and I am sure will be crying at end of month when reality hits and he has to leave their house. Most gifts he could sell or trade and money isn't something I would give him at all. Should I just ignore Christmas at this point and return the gifts? He did this exact same scenario last Christmas.[/QUOTE] I so am where you are. My 30 year old son has managed to miss or ruin Christmas many times with his blaming and disrespect. The holidays make it more difficult as well as my picturing him as the child he was and the wonderful Christmases that we had. When I do that, I try to come back to reality because the truth is that he is a grown man now who continues to choose to do things his way and shows little concern for the pain and abuse he causes our family. He just sent me a card from prison asking when I am going to put his Christmas $ on his account. I probably will, which is an indication of the work I still need to do, but I am choosing not to beat myself about it. I, at least, can be compassionate to myself as I work to become stronger. One thing I am working on is caring about myself as much as I care about my son. I don't think my son spends much energy thinking about doing anything for me, only about what he needs to do to keep me hooked in. My thoughts are with you. [/QUOTE]
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