I guess I need to take back my earlier post in which I stated difficult child was doing better. I had a call from the school, and another boy brought cigarettes and a lighter to school, and they (3 boys including difficult child) smoked before school. From what difficult child said, he smoked because the boy who brought the smokes said he wouldn't be his friend if he did'nt. I did not expect to have to deal with this until middle school. They are in the 4th grade!!!I am just scared and disgusted. I am flabbergasted and speechless. I have had reservations about the boy who pressured difficult child into this for a while, and to the extent I can enforce it they will no longer be allowed to be friends. The school had difficult child call me and tell me what happened, and I told him at one point that friends do not want their friends to do bad things. That is not being a good friend. Part of me is so sad that he did this to try to keep a friend. My heart is weeping for him. He just wants to have someone to play with, and so few kids want to play with him and the ones that will I do not want around. We live in an area that has a lot of issues. It is not a slum, but it is an area of lower income housing. I am scared as I think what does his future hold? If he is trying cigarettes now, what will be next? I just want to crawl in a hole and weep. I just can't do this. I do not know what else to do.