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<blockquote data-quote="Erinee98" data-source="post: 704490" data-attributes="member: 21152"><p>I know my post was long and convoluted. I want to be clear that we <em>know</em> we can't force him to do anything. The steps we have laid out for him are simply steps that he needs to be willing to take if he wants to continue living at home and doesn't want us to call the police. So far he is amenable. Unlike my ex's father, who was kicked out and didn't care and never returned, he does at least seem to care. In the end, we realize it's his choice, and if he chooses not to follow these steps, he is choosing to leave.</p><p></p><p>I believe I said in my initial post, and it probably got lost in the long background, that we will be getting family therapy, as well as individual treatment and NA for him. We know it's going to be a long, hard journey, and that's why I sought out a group like this for immediate support. I am dying inside. Even though it's his choice, those choices affect us. If he wants to go back to that life, it will be like my son died. I get to mourn. I won't be able to immediately get on with my life and wash my hands of him just because it was his decision. That's what I'm struggling with right now. I'm going to get counseling for this, but it takes time to find someone and get an appointment, and I needed to talk now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Erinee98, post: 704490, member: 21152"] I know my post was long and convoluted. I want to be clear that we [I]know[/I] we can't force him to do anything. The steps we have laid out for him are simply steps that he needs to be willing to take if he wants to continue living at home and doesn't want us to call the police. So far he is amenable. Unlike my ex's father, who was kicked out and didn't care and never returned, he does at least seem to care. In the end, we realize it's his choice, and if he chooses not to follow these steps, he is choosing to leave. I believe I said in my initial post, and it probably got lost in the long background, that we will be getting family therapy, as well as individual treatment and NA for him. We know it's going to be a long, hard journey, and that's why I sought out a group like this for immediate support. I am dying inside. Even though it's his choice, those choices affect us. If he wants to go back to that life, it will be like my son died. I get to mourn. I won't be able to immediately get on with my life and wash my hands of him just because it was his decision. That's what I'm struggling with right now. I'm going to get counseling for this, but it takes time to find someone and get an appointment, and I needed to talk now. [/QUOTE]
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