Well I am new to this site but old to the same complaints I have read on here. My 44y/o son is a recovered meth user and has been clean for 3 years and living with his enabler girl friend. He has used her up, taken money from her and says he hates her and can't stand the sight of her. However, he lives with her and she supports him. She buys his clothing. pays for his E-cigs., and so on. He says she is a fat, ugly, and has called her that to her face. Granted she has many issues of her own but he was raised with correct manners, taught respect, and churched. His whole personality changed when he got on drugs at age 18 and was in prison for 2 yrs. on drugs and theft charges. He has been enabled by me and his stepdad. He has been given cars, places to live, food, medical care, etc etc. We cut him off 3 yrs ago when we got him into a rehab center. He lasted 2 wks in there and then left. He went to a half way house and seemed much better. He has never worked at anything for more than a year. He moved into a rental apt. with two other people he met in rehab, got a really good job, and lasted 6 months. He got back on drugs and the his old friend(girl) entered the picture and took him under her wing when we refused to help him anymore. He has lived with her until last week when he called her filthy names, punched a hole in the bedroom door, and wouldn't speak to her. She called me and said that was it and it was over. She is moving back with her parents and he has till end of Dec. to get out. He called us and cussed us out and said he had no family when we said we would not set him up anymore. He got his rotten upper teeth pulled 7 months ago and has upper dentures. We paid for it and he wanted implants but doesn't have enough bone to do them. It was from doing all the drugs. Now he says we ruined his life cause his dentures are not natural and he can't eat anymore. He never takes responsibility for anything--always someone else's fault! He says his life is over. I advised him to go to a shelter here for homeless and they help you find a job and get mental help, etc. He said I was calling him a loser now and he cleaned up and won't live with losers anymore. He will lose all his belongings and the 2 dogs he has at the end of the month. I know I will get many calls here soon when it gets closer to the end of December. Guess I just need emotional support to stay strong and advice on how I am handling this. Is there anything else I should do or say? His girlfriend texts and calls me all the time and says how sad she is and how much she loved him and he will be homeless. She says he needs family and loves us. She just can't do it anymore or she will lose her job cause she is so sad at work. We are 70 and 82 and raising a 14 year old we adopted when he was 8 wks old. He has spina bifida and is in a wheelchair. We are retired medical people and did medically needy foster care and he was one of our babies. We have 5 adult children, our 14 y/o , 8 grandchildren, and one great grandchild. He is such a good kid and a blessing. I need to be on good shape mentally to keep young enough and emotionally intact for him and my aged husband. Glad I found this forum--venting even helps!!