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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 709313" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome and sorry you have to be here. I am dealing with a 21 year old son that is not following the path that we thought he would either as you can see by my signature.</p><p></p><p>You need to take care of yourself. You can see this is no quick or easy fix. He has to hit bottom before he will decide to change his life. You/We cannot do that for our adult children.</p><p></p><p>We are still on the journey and learning as we go trust me. The best thing you can do is see a therapist or get involved in a support group that can help you learn to say NO and learn to form healthy boundaries. He needs those as much as you do or he will never move forward.</p><p></p><p>None of this is easy. Having boundaries does not mean you do not love your son. You would not have searched the internet for this forum if you didn't care and you weren't looking for answers. All of us here are looking for answers. The answer may be that there is not any answer. We just try to support each other and learn from what may have or may have not worked for others.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting and reading here. This will give you so much insight and strength. It sure has for me.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 709313, member: 15032"] Welcome and sorry you have to be here. I am dealing with a 21 year old son that is not following the path that we thought he would either as you can see by my signature. You need to take care of yourself. You can see this is no quick or easy fix. He has to hit bottom before he will decide to change his life. You/We cannot do that for our adult children. We are still on the journey and learning as we go trust me. The best thing you can do is see a therapist or get involved in a support group that can help you learn to say NO and learn to form healthy boundaries. He needs those as much as you do or he will never move forward. None of this is easy. Having boundaries does not mean you do not love your son. You would not have searched the internet for this forum if you didn't care and you weren't looking for answers. All of us here are looking for answers. The answer may be that there is not any answer. We just try to support each other and learn from what may have or may have not worked for others. Keep posting and reading here. This will give you so much insight and strength. It sure has for me. :notalone: [/QUOTE]
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