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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 648149" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>One thing I learned with my own son is to just simply say "NO"</p><p>I had too many times where I would say "I'm sorry but I just can't help you this time" would lead into a debate.</p><p></p><p>It would go something like this:</p><p>Me: I'm sorry but I just can't help you this time"</p><p>Son: but you will help me right? you said not this time so that means you'll help me right???</p><p>Me: I can't help you. You need to start taking responsibility for yourself and quit relying on me.</p><p>Son: Rely on you, when have you ever been there to help me?</p><p>Me: All the times you got arrested I was there for you in court</p><p>Son: Ya, whatever, you never bailed me out instead you let me sit in jail.</p><p>Me: I'm sorry about that</p><p>Son: You owe it to me, I need money</p><p>Me: No, I can't help you</p><p>Son: You're a <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /></p><p>Me: Goodbye</p><p></p><p>It took time but I finally learned to just say "NO" with conviction and without any apology.</p><p></p><p>When he would ask me why, I would say "I have made my decision, I said NO and do not need to offer any explanation" The debates stopped.</p><p></p><p>There is so much power behind that simple little word.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 648149, member: 18516"] One thing I learned with my own son is to just simply say "NO" I had too many times where I would say "I'm sorry but I just can't help you this time" would lead into a debate. It would go something like this: Me: I'm sorry but I just can't help you this time" Son: but you will help me right? you said not this time so that means you'll help me right??? Me: I can't help you. You need to start taking responsibility for yourself and quit relying on me. Son: Rely on you, when have you ever been there to help me? Me: All the times you got arrested I was there for you in court Son: Ya, whatever, you never bailed me out instead you let me sit in jail. Me: I'm sorry about that Son: You owe it to me, I need money Me: No, I can't help you Son: You're a :censored: Me: Goodbye It took time but I finally learned to just say "NO" with conviction and without any apology. When he would ask me why, I would say "I have made my decision, I said NO and do not need to offer any explanation" The debates stopped. There is so much power behind that simple little word. [/QUOTE]
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