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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 625229" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>Hi AshleyM.,</p><p></p><p>Just wanted to add a voice of agreement with what others have already said--you are correct to be concerned. There is misbehavior and then there is danger. The behavior you are talking about requires serious intervention now. Does the school know about the severity of his behavior at home? I would consider calling CPS now so you start making a paper trail at least--and maybe they will be helpful--but you need to document these behaviors. When my difficult child was going through his most violent phase I tired to get CPS involved (they had already been involved once before over his truancy)--it didn't really work--they told me that they could only investigate *me*--but the problem was that *I* was the one who wasn't safe at home. When I tried the domestic violence agency that had helped me with my ex, they said, about my kid, "but he's you're kid!" and dismissed me. This is to say that in my experience it can be difficult for people to understand--don't let their lack of understanding talk you into a situation you know isn't safe. In the end it was the domestic violence cops who were most beneficial. The point is- you may have to look for help in a number of difference places and it's likely that it will be difficult to get the danger across, but I'd start now- *before* your husband gets out. I'd even think of calling adult protective services-- he is putting his grandmother at risk-- fire setting is extremely dangerous. The one thing that you can control is your behavior. I'd start drawing clear lines now. There's no negotiating with danger. When you husband gets out I can imagine the pressure increasing, so if you have already been doing the behaviors of identifying your ss as in need of desperate help, those won't have to be new behavior that you need to start in the midst of other changes and pressures that are sure to be present at his release.</p><p></p><p>My 2 cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 625229, member: 17805"] Hi AshleyM., Just wanted to add a voice of agreement with what others have already said--you are correct to be concerned. There is misbehavior and then there is danger. The behavior you are talking about requires serious intervention now. Does the school know about the severity of his behavior at home? I would consider calling CPS now so you start making a paper trail at least--and maybe they will be helpful--but you need to document these behaviors. When my difficult child was going through his most violent phase I tired to get CPS involved (they had already been involved once before over his truancy)--it didn't really work--they told me that they could only investigate *me*--but the problem was that *I* was the one who wasn't safe at home. When I tried the domestic violence agency that had helped me with my ex, they said, about my kid, "but he's you're kid!" and dismissed me. This is to say that in my experience it can be difficult for people to understand--don't let their lack of understanding talk you into a situation you know isn't safe. In the end it was the domestic violence cops who were most beneficial. The point is- you may have to look for help in a number of difference places and it's likely that it will be difficult to get the danger across, but I'd start now- *before* your husband gets out. I'd even think of calling adult protective services-- he is putting his grandmother at risk-- fire setting is extremely dangerous. The one thing that you can control is your behavior. I'd start drawing clear lines now. There's no negotiating with danger. When you husband gets out I can imagine the pressure increasing, so if you have already been doing the behaviors of identifying your ss as in need of desperate help, those won't have to be new behavior that you need to start in the midst of other changes and pressures that are sure to be present at his release. My 2 cents. [/QUOTE]
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