Well, no major developments so far. I have spoken with an attorney and he is aware of these two men and basically implied that they are bad news. He will be meeting with my husband very soon (he's busy with a trial).
My husband and I have had many heart to heart talks over the past week. If you read this story through, it sounds like he is some made for TV movie criminal. But I think the other viewpoint is that he really might be the victim of blackmailing. The "friend" who is after the money knows that we have been saving up for a major purchase (and that we had the money!).
My husband truly has a heart of gold and has NEVER misbehaved, been innapropriate, or lied to me (before these two guys insisted that he tell the fabricated version of the story). He only lasted a few hours, then he felt compelled to tell me the whole story. According to him, he really did call her about babysitting. He did give me her name and number when he met her the first day as a potential babysitter. He said their conversation was only about our kids ages, where we live (in general terms), and some movie that she was going to watch with a friend that night. The next time he saw her working at the store, he inquired if she liked the movie she saw. And supposedly that is it. I have complete access to all of our financial accounts, retirement and banking, and there has been no illicit moving of funds, nor unexplained phone calls, nor absences.
The only tricky thing for me is that I still don't understand why he was so "scared" when that character told him he needed money. I would like to think it is because he has such a sterling reputation, his career depends on keeping it that way, and he truly thought his "friend" was being factual and advising him to do the right thing.
I have seen NO evidence that my husband is shirking away from revealing anything. *I* changed his cell phone number so those guys wouldn't have it. I am monitoring his cell phone calls and e-mails. But there is nothing to find.
He (with the exception of the two hours that I believed the wild story those two guys told) has been nothing but a perfect husband, father and respectable professional.
I have tried many angles to see if he would tell me more - "I want to hear it from you, not read it in the newspaper".
"Tell me the truth because if I find out differently, our marriage is over", etc. But each time, he calmly and lovingly says that he has told the truth.
So..... I know a bunch of you are probably thinking, yes - just the way a true pscyhopath mobster villain WOULD act, but what if.....what if....... he really is still the same wonderful husband, super dad, great guy and he was thrown for a loop by these scamming guys who he had the misfortune to know?????????
I can't risk throwing my whole 20 year relationship away and tormenting our kids who have already had a year of torment by our difficult child. I say innocent until proven guilty, and my radar will remain up!!!!
If nothing serious REALLY happened, I think this whole situation will just disappear. As many of you pointed out, if he was truly guilty of something bad or highly suggestive, the parents would go straight to the police. The girl has his (former) cell phone number, after all - it would be a very easy matter for the police to track him down.
I'm still not sure if the family actually hired the security guy or if these two just got wind of this encounter with the girl from something my husband said. The one bad character did a bunch of free work for a friend of ours - my husband said it was probably because he wanted a date with her! (And that dude is still married, but living with his mistress!).
Well, enough of my novel. Thank you for your support, views and suggestions. I hope that the vast majority of them won't be needed. Hope....