I"m absolutely fuming right now!!! FUMING!!!!!
oh, ok hi to everyone, i hope everyone's day was good, difficult child's were good and all of you are well. I haven't been on much today.
alright back to my SCREAMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I go up to parent/school mtg. I invite exdh (ok expita) that's what i'm going to call him from here forward. I invite the pita because he's never been to an open school mtg. so i figured it's time he jumped on board, he's been at school twice once for a holiday thing another for a big team mtg.
So, we go in the teacher starts talking about difficult child, how she's improving greatly, the anxiety is def. lowered, no nurse visits, she's engaging wtih the other kids, academically she's holding her own yet needs alot more work, her focus is off. NO DUH!! But ok let me be nice she's a dedicated teacher and she didnt' do anything wrong. i cant type fast enough right now by the way.
She says i dont' see alot of the behaviors you describe seeing at home the verbal attacks, the hyperactivity level, the violence, etc. I said well, that's good!!! EXpita jumps in, well you know it's difficult child being in the same school for 2 years now that's making all the difference, blah blah blah. She, meaning me moved her away from her family 2 years ago and all this started!!! woo i took a deep breath and said ok Jen (talking to myself) i'm not going to blow i'm going to plant him graciously. I said well, i think it's a combined effort, the medication is doing it's job, the therapist is working with her, i work with her and i do my very best to facilitate friendships and schedule play dates, i've also invovled her recently in extra cirriculur actiivites that i think will help her as well, and the violin also, blah blah, I than add it's difficutl for my ex PITA to fully graps difficult child's struggles becuase he only sees her 4 days a mos. unfortunatley, yet iit's the only time they can spend due to his work schedule, yet difficult child appreciates that time. Also ex PITA has not been to any of the various doctors, psychdocs, therapists i've worked with for several years now.
ok took care of that. a few more bashes from him. We get into the truck yes I took him in my truck since school is only down the road more or less and it begins. He rambles on to say well don't you think it's the fact that difficult child has been in the same school for 2 years now that is also making her better? I said yes I believe the same school setting for two years now is greatly helping, yet as per usual you refuse to see what difficult child truly is and that is sad and will also not help her. I said being that you suffer from extreme anxiety yourself, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and also sleeplessness (who knows what his true diagnosis would ever be) you could be using these as teachable moments with her and sharing your struggles with her so that she feels as though she's not alone, yet you do not. He said there is nothing wrong with her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She has a little anxiety like most of us do!!! Your putting her on all these dangerous medications, and who knows what will happen to her later in life due to it, you listen to these crazy doctors with whom are diagnosis'ing her with bipolar!!
She doens't have bipolar, the dr. she now has is a complete wack job, he's takign kick backs from the pharmacuteical companies I can't spell everything in his office says abilify or seroquel. He wont' return my calls, who is he to diagnosis her with bipolar disorder?? Umm a doctor i'm thinking. It's your life choices that have made her how she is, and on and on he went!!!
So, after trying very hard to remain calm and focused and centered and trying to explain to him that what she has, all of her diagnosis's it is a managable thing, with care, taugth the right tools she will be ok and hopefully lead a full balanced life someday. I try i try again to speak to him calmly he keeps verbally attacking.
So, I said well i'm glad i have sole custody you are clearly out of your ever loving mind. You yourself should seek a true diagnosis and get your own level of help. Everytime difficult child goes to your house she returns with a new fear and a new horror story of your wife with whom pays no mind to either her or you and who is never home and makes a point of returning when difficult child leaves. i said you can go >>>>> yourself, i have no interest in getting you out of the denial you are so badly stuck in, go get your own help. I've gotten mine and can say my daughter has a mental illness, it has taken me years to accept the truth of it. Now that I have I am a better advocate for her, and understand her struggles that much better. You have gone to no doctors with me except for one doctor with whom boyfriend and I paid the neuropsychologist evaluation bill while you cried poverty!!! After difficult child's medical bills got to be too much and we lost our home, our life everything. where were you then?? Did you say oh let me give you a little more support this week to help you guys?? no, you sat idly by while i went down financially and all due to cutting my work hours to be home for difficult child, and paying all her medical bills.
ok so i'm done now. he's lucky I didnt' run him over. I told him i will no longer invite you to these meeetings. If you would like to attend I will give you the date and it will be up to you to schedule your own time to meet the teachers, i will no longer share with you her medications, the dosaage amt.s the info given by doctors or her therapist. You want the info i'll email the numbers your so interested you call. I'm done with you now.
Ok if you got this far down thanks for letting me blow. I can't stand his level of denial, his accusatory tone with me, and the fac that this man should be kissing the ground i walk on for fighting for our daughter so very hard while he sits back and does absolutely nothing. Her improvements will never ever be anything he can say wow we made it thru it'll be all me and difficult child and well the doctors, therapists and you guys!!!
what a jerk
oh, ok hi to everyone, i hope everyone's day was good, difficult child's were good and all of you are well. I haven't been on much today.
alright back to my SCREAMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I go up to parent/school mtg. I invite exdh (ok expita) that's what i'm going to call him from here forward. I invite the pita because he's never been to an open school mtg. so i figured it's time he jumped on board, he's been at school twice once for a holiday thing another for a big team mtg.
So, we go in the teacher starts talking about difficult child, how she's improving greatly, the anxiety is def. lowered, no nurse visits, she's engaging wtih the other kids, academically she's holding her own yet needs alot more work, her focus is off. NO DUH!! But ok let me be nice she's a dedicated teacher and she didnt' do anything wrong. i cant type fast enough right now by the way.
She says i dont' see alot of the behaviors you describe seeing at home the verbal attacks, the hyperactivity level, the violence, etc. I said well, that's good!!! EXpita jumps in, well you know it's difficult child being in the same school for 2 years now that's making all the difference, blah blah blah. She, meaning me moved her away from her family 2 years ago and all this started!!! woo i took a deep breath and said ok Jen (talking to myself) i'm not going to blow i'm going to plant him graciously. I said well, i think it's a combined effort, the medication is doing it's job, the therapist is working with her, i work with her and i do my very best to facilitate friendships and schedule play dates, i've also invovled her recently in extra cirriculur actiivites that i think will help her as well, and the violin also, blah blah, I than add it's difficutl for my ex PITA to fully graps difficult child's struggles becuase he only sees her 4 days a mos. unfortunatley, yet iit's the only time they can spend due to his work schedule, yet difficult child appreciates that time. Also ex PITA has not been to any of the various doctors, psychdocs, therapists i've worked with for several years now.
ok took care of that. a few more bashes from him. We get into the truck yes I took him in my truck since school is only down the road more or less and it begins. He rambles on to say well don't you think it's the fact that difficult child has been in the same school for 2 years now that is also making her better? I said yes I believe the same school setting for two years now is greatly helping, yet as per usual you refuse to see what difficult child truly is and that is sad and will also not help her. I said being that you suffer from extreme anxiety yourself, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and also sleeplessness (who knows what his true diagnosis would ever be) you could be using these as teachable moments with her and sharing your struggles with her so that she feels as though she's not alone, yet you do not. He said there is nothing wrong with her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She has a little anxiety like most of us do!!! Your putting her on all these dangerous medications, and who knows what will happen to her later in life due to it, you listen to these crazy doctors with whom are diagnosis'ing her with bipolar!!
She doens't have bipolar, the dr. she now has is a complete wack job, he's takign kick backs from the pharmacuteical companies I can't spell everything in his office says abilify or seroquel. He wont' return my calls, who is he to diagnosis her with bipolar disorder?? Umm a doctor i'm thinking. It's your life choices that have made her how she is, and on and on he went!!!
So, after trying very hard to remain calm and focused and centered and trying to explain to him that what she has, all of her diagnosis's it is a managable thing, with care, taugth the right tools she will be ok and hopefully lead a full balanced life someday. I try i try again to speak to him calmly he keeps verbally attacking.
So, I said well i'm glad i have sole custody you are clearly out of your ever loving mind. You yourself should seek a true diagnosis and get your own level of help. Everytime difficult child goes to your house she returns with a new fear and a new horror story of your wife with whom pays no mind to either her or you and who is never home and makes a point of returning when difficult child leaves. i said you can go >>>>> yourself, i have no interest in getting you out of the denial you are so badly stuck in, go get your own help. I've gotten mine and can say my daughter has a mental illness, it has taken me years to accept the truth of it. Now that I have I am a better advocate for her, and understand her struggles that much better. You have gone to no doctors with me except for one doctor with whom boyfriend and I paid the neuropsychologist evaluation bill while you cried poverty!!! After difficult child's medical bills got to be too much and we lost our home, our life everything. where were you then?? Did you say oh let me give you a little more support this week to help you guys?? no, you sat idly by while i went down financially and all due to cutting my work hours to be home for difficult child, and paying all her medical bills.
ok so i'm done now. he's lucky I didnt' run him over. I told him i will no longer invite you to these meeetings. If you would like to attend I will give you the date and it will be up to you to schedule your own time to meet the teachers, i will no longer share with you her medications, the dosaage amt.s the info given by doctors or her therapist. You want the info i'll email the numbers your so interested you call. I'm done with you now.
Ok if you got this far down thanks for letting me blow. I can't stand his level of denial, his accusatory tone with me, and the fac that this man should be kissing the ground i walk on for fighting for our daughter so very hard while he sits back and does absolutely nothing. Her improvements will never ever be anything he can say wow we made it thru it'll be all me and difficult child and well the doctors, therapists and you guys!!!
what a jerk
