Californiablonde
Well-Known Member
As you all know, difficult child has been battling with stomach issues for the past year or so. She was diagnosed with stomach ulcers about six months ago and put on various medications. difficult child is still vomiting and getting horrible bouts of nausea. She is skipping meals because she is afraid of throwing up. In the last two weeks she has only made it to school twice. She went to see her gastroenterologist last week and the dr. says she wants to run more tests. She sent her to the lab on Friday to have bloodwork done to check out her pancreas to see if that was infected. My mom took her to the lab Friday morning to get the bloodwork. The lab refused to give a note to excuse difficult child from missing class. They said that only her doctor can excuse it. So I called this morning to ask her gastroenterologist to please fax me a note and excuse her for Friday's absence. I was told the doctor will not excuse it due to her being absent all day. Friday was minimum day due to back to school night on Thursday night. difficult child got out of school at 11:20 on Friday. By the time my mom got my daughter to the lab in the morning and got her blood drawn, then took her to eat breakfast since she had to fast beforehand, school was already almost out. I told my mom just to drop her off at home since school would be out shortly anyway. I explained to the nurse at the doctor's office that difficult child's school let out early on Friday so that is why she never made it to school. The dr. still won't excuse it. Now I have another unexcused absence on difficult child's record.
This morning I had to argue and fight to get difficult child to school. Usually she gets sick in the morning then feels better in the afternoon, so I convinced her to come to school and try and make it through at least part of the day. While I was driving easy child to school she threw up several times in my car. Sometimes after she throws up she feels better so I drove her to school tp see if she could make it. She made it through her first class fine but then went to the nurse's office and threw up again during third period. She wanted to go home but the nurse's assisant pursuaded her to stay until lunch time since she has already missed so much school. difficult child agreed to go back to class then went back to the nurse at lunch time due to still feeling sick. This time the head nurse was in there and she is a real hard *** when it comes to sending kids home. She knows all about difficult child's issues, and she says she will not send her home even if she throws up because she thinks difficult child is faking it. The nurse came to talk to me privately and told me that if difficult child does not have a temperature she is not excusing her to go home. difficult child's last class of the day, which is right after lunch, is PE. At least I got her to get through her academic classes but I didn't think she was well enough to do PE. I explained this to the nurse and she didn't care.
She chastised me for keeping difficult child home to much and not getting her the education she deserves. I then informed her that I have contacted the school psychiatric and her case carrier to discuss possible home teaching. The IEP is supposed to be scheduled within the next couple of weeks. The nurse told me she was never informed of any IEP and that she was booked solid and couldn't make it anyway. Then she told me difficult child will not qualify for home teaching. She says home teaching is only for kids with serious medical issues such as cancer or rare seizure disorders. She says that she is the one who has to approve home teaching and she is not going to do it for difficult child. I don't know where else to turn. I am going to go ahead with the IEP and see what the district has to say. I feel like nobody is on my side and nobody is helping. I am getting accused of not giving difficult child an education, which is simply not true. Right now she is suffering from psychiatric issues and unexplained stomach issues and I'm doing my best to get her to school. Especially in my line of work, I find education extremely important. Saying I don't care about my kid's education isn't true at all. I just wish I knew where to go from her because it seems like nobody wants to help me.
This morning I had to argue and fight to get difficult child to school. Usually she gets sick in the morning then feels better in the afternoon, so I convinced her to come to school and try and make it through at least part of the day. While I was driving easy child to school she threw up several times in my car. Sometimes after she throws up she feels better so I drove her to school tp see if she could make it. She made it through her first class fine but then went to the nurse's office and threw up again during third period. She wanted to go home but the nurse's assisant pursuaded her to stay until lunch time since she has already missed so much school. difficult child agreed to go back to class then went back to the nurse at lunch time due to still feeling sick. This time the head nurse was in there and she is a real hard *** when it comes to sending kids home. She knows all about difficult child's issues, and she says she will not send her home even if she throws up because she thinks difficult child is faking it. The nurse came to talk to me privately and told me that if difficult child does not have a temperature she is not excusing her to go home. difficult child's last class of the day, which is right after lunch, is PE. At least I got her to get through her academic classes but I didn't think she was well enough to do PE. I explained this to the nurse and she didn't care.
She chastised me for keeping difficult child home to much and not getting her the education she deserves. I then informed her that I have contacted the school psychiatric and her case carrier to discuss possible home teaching. The IEP is supposed to be scheduled within the next couple of weeks. The nurse told me she was never informed of any IEP and that she was booked solid and couldn't make it anyway. Then she told me difficult child will not qualify for home teaching. She says home teaching is only for kids with serious medical issues such as cancer or rare seizure disorders. She says that she is the one who has to approve home teaching and she is not going to do it for difficult child. I don't know where else to turn. I am going to go ahead with the IEP and see what the district has to say. I feel like nobody is on my side and nobody is helping. I am getting accused of not giving difficult child an education, which is simply not true. Right now she is suffering from psychiatric issues and unexplained stomach issues and I'm doing my best to get her to school. Especially in my line of work, I find education extremely important. Saying I don't care about my kid's education isn't true at all. I just wish I knew where to go from her because it seems like nobody wants to help me.