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School psychologist doesn't agree with diagnosis
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 25829" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>It is still difficult to change the mindset of therapists who have a behaviorist training. Even if a kid has no skills deficits and motivation is the problem , relying on extrinsic motivation is not the answer. The research shows , see Alfie Kohn and Deci , that extrinsic motivation has a negative effect on developing intrinsic motivation. The problem could be the teaching environment , how to reach the kid , as Alfie Kohn said - Discipline is the problem , not the solution and of course what message do we give our kids , in the words of Eli Newberger is -</p><p>The method of withdrawing privileges is essentially negative: I can't communicate with you, and so I'll hurt you if you don't mind me. The positive counterpoint is: We all make mistakes, and you can trust me to help you do better in the future.</p><p>if a kid does not fit exactly into a diagnosis , it does not mean there is no problem. The dictionary defines manipulative behavior as skillful in influencing or controlling others to your own advantage - most of these children display poor coping skills , reactive , aggressive without any thought or at least distorted thinking. Discipline is from the Latin word to teach , hence the word disciple. Where are all the teaching moments, helping the kid find alternative replacement behaviors ? AS Gordon Thomas PET says every time you use ' power ' an opportunity for learning is lost. There is always room to improve skills and a kid is more likely to respond to a teacher who respects the kid, gives him a voice , he feels understood and can trust her than some one who is ' conditional ' and manipulates him with a carrot or stick. We are dealing with a kid's perceptions , a kid - and most kids are in this category - kids want to do well , want to do the right thing .</p><p>Good luck</p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 25829, member: 10"] Hi, It is still difficult to change the mindset of therapists who have a behaviorist training. Even if a kid has no skills deficits and motivation is the problem , relying on extrinsic motivation is not the answer. The research shows , see Alfie Kohn and Deci , that extrinsic motivation has a negative effect on developing intrinsic motivation. The problem could be the teaching environment , how to reach the kid , as Alfie Kohn said - Discipline is the problem , not the solution and of course what message do we give our kids , in the words of Eli Newberger is - The method of withdrawing privileges is essentially negative: I can't communicate with you, and so I'll hurt you if you don't mind me. The positive counterpoint is: We all make mistakes, and you can trust me to help you do better in the future. if a kid does not fit exactly into a diagnosis , it does not mean there is no problem. The dictionary defines manipulative behavior as skillful in influencing or controlling others to your own advantage - most of these children display poor coping skills , reactive , aggressive without any thought or at least distorted thinking. Discipline is from the Latin word to teach , hence the word disciple. Where are all the teaching moments, helping the kid find alternative replacement behaviors ? AS Gordon Thomas PET says every time you use ' power ' an opportunity for learning is lost. There is always room to improve skills and a kid is more likely to respond to a teacher who respects the kid, gives him a voice , he feels understood and can trust her than some one who is ' conditional ' and manipulates him with a carrot or stick. We are dealing with a kid's perceptions , a kid - and most kids are in this category - kids want to do well , want to do the right thing . Good luck Allan [/QUOTE]
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