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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 663856" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Sam. Your story really resonates with me as your son sounds a lot like my son. How old is your son? My son self-medicated, I believe, and spiraled into addiction and alcoholism. His dad is a recovering alcoholic and his grandfather (now deceased) was an unrecovered alcoholic. My grandmother abused prescription medications under the tutelage of three doctors, and my own brother, my son's uncle, is an active alcoholic.</p><p></p><p>It's everywhere in our family. And my Difficult Child has always been shy, hung back in new situations, had a hard time going to school and adapting every year, and covered those feelings by acting out and being the "class clown" and then, getting into trouble and seeing what he could get by with. He bites his fingernails and is jumpy and a very hard worker and always thinking. He is anxious and has had some mild depression. </p><p></p><p>Regarding your son, I would leave him in treatment for every single minute that you can. It won't hurt him and you will never know how what he is hearing---even if he is rejecting it---will come back to help him down the road.</p><p></p><p>My son is now 26 and doing so much better. I realize he can relapse at any time, and he may. But I've backed way way off in his life over the past few years, and he has grown up a bit, and finally got somewhat "scared straight" i believe, due to the threat of prison.</p><p></p><p>Our troubled DCs will act out until THEY decide not to act out anymore, and not one minute before that.</p><p></p><p>Let the professionals have your son for as long as possible. You'll have him back soon enough. In the meantime, work on YOU. Read Boundaries and CoDependent No More for starters. Go to Al-Anon. Pray, exercise, meditate, do nice things for yourself. Get your mind right about who you are, forgive yourself for not being perfect, and find as many places as possible inside yourself for peace and calm to exist.</p><p></p><p>We're glad you are here. Keep posting, it helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 663856, member: 17542"] Hi Sam. Your story really resonates with me as your son sounds a lot like my son. How old is your son? My son self-medicated, I believe, and spiraled into addiction and alcoholism. His dad is a recovering alcoholic and his grandfather (now deceased) was an unrecovered alcoholic. My grandmother abused prescription medications under the tutelage of three doctors, and my own brother, my son's uncle, is an active alcoholic. It's everywhere in our family. And my Difficult Child has always been shy, hung back in new situations, had a hard time going to school and adapting every year, and covered those feelings by acting out and being the "class clown" and then, getting into trouble and seeing what he could get by with. He bites his fingernails and is jumpy and a very hard worker and always thinking. He is anxious and has had some mild depression. Regarding your son, I would leave him in treatment for every single minute that you can. It won't hurt him and you will never know how what he is hearing---even if he is rejecting it---will come back to help him down the road. My son is now 26 and doing so much better. I realize he can relapse at any time, and he may. But I've backed way way off in his life over the past few years, and he has grown up a bit, and finally got somewhat "scared straight" i believe, due to the threat of prison. Our troubled DCs will act out until THEY decide not to act out anymore, and not one minute before that. Let the professionals have your son for as long as possible. You'll have him back soon enough. In the meantime, work on YOU. Read Boundaries and CoDependent No More for starters. Go to Al-Anon. Pray, exercise, meditate, do nice things for yourself. Get your mind right about who you are, forgive yourself for not being perfect, and find as many places as possible inside yourself for peace and calm to exist. We're glad you are here. Keep posting, it helps. [/QUOTE]
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