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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 664421" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>"I was plagued by feelings of guilt because I realized I had parented him very reactively, out of fear that he was going down the path of my substance abusing or narcissistic family members"</p><p></p><p>Ditto. We adopted our daughter. Her biological history includes alcohol and drug abuse which we knew from the beginning. I beat myself up for a long time because of how I parented her. I was sooooo afraid tat she would go down the same path as her birthmother I almost expected it. I jumped to conclusions very quickly and saw signs of abuse early on. It scared me to death and I did not react very well. I put the clamps down and probably pushed her faster into addiction. I'm not sure what else I could have done and she did follow in her birthmother's footsteps on so many levels. She was also oppositional from a very early age which didn't help matters.</p><p></p><p>We have all been in your shoes. We carry a lot of guilt and struggle with detaching from our addict's behavior. You are doing fine. I am proud of you for seeking out support, that is a very difficult thing for many of us to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 664421, member: 59"] "I was plagued by feelings of guilt because I realized I had parented him very reactively, out of fear that he was going down the path of my substance abusing or narcissistic family members" Ditto. We adopted our daughter. Her biological history includes alcohol and drug abuse which we knew from the beginning. I beat myself up for a long time because of how I parented her. I was sooooo afraid tat she would go down the same path as her birthmother I almost expected it. I jumped to conclusions very quickly and saw signs of abuse early on. It scared me to death and I did not react very well. I put the clamps down and probably pushed her faster into addiction. I'm not sure what else I could have done and she did follow in her birthmother's footsteps on so many levels. She was also oppositional from a very early age which didn't help matters. We have all been in your shoes. We carry a lot of guilt and struggle with detaching from our addict's behavior. You are doing fine. I am proud of you for seeking out support, that is a very difficult thing for many of us to do. [/QUOTE]
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