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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 642713" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Albatross, hello! It is very nice to see you again after so long a time. </p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Headlights Mom posted, on a thread here on P.E. last week, about the issue of comparison versus Radical Acceptance. In responding, I came to understand that I have been choosing a perspective come of comparing what I have, to what I had, to how it "should be" <em>based on television shows from the 50s</em>.</p><p></p><p>Or the Brady Bunch, for you youngsters on the site.</p><p></p><p>We do suffer, and the suffering is very real, as we relearn the meaning of our holidays without our children safe beside us ~ or even, just safe, at all. There is no comfort for us. There is no way to change what is, or the grief that attends those understandings. But maybe we can find the strength to stand again around that concept of the second arrow. </p><p></p><p>The kernel of truth at the heart of that concept is real.</p><p></p><p>But the living horror at the heart of our situations, especially when our children are young adults going a wrong way...that's real, too.</p><p></p><p>COM posted this morning: "I am reminded that this is HIS LIFE, not my life, and I have no crystal ball to see his future." I copied that down to put it on my fridge for myself. I think COM would not mind that I post it here for you.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can take some comfort there, Albatross.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p></p><p>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 642713, member: 17461"] Albatross, hello! It is very nice to see you again after so long a time. :O) Headlights Mom posted, on a thread here on P.E. last week, about the issue of comparison versus Radical Acceptance. In responding, I came to understand that I have been choosing a perspective come of comparing what I have, to what I had, to how it "should be" [I]based on television shows from the 50s[/I]. Or the Brady Bunch, for you youngsters on the site. We do suffer, and the suffering is very real, as we relearn the meaning of our holidays without our children safe beside us ~ or even, just safe, at all. There is no comfort for us. There is no way to change what is, or the grief that attends those understandings. But maybe we can find the strength to stand again around that concept of the second arrow. The kernel of truth at the heart of that concept is real. But the living horror at the heart of our situations, especially when our children are young adults going a wrong way...that's real, too. COM posted this morning: "I am reminded that this is HIS LIFE, not my life, and I have no crystal ball to see his future." I copied that down to put it on my fridge for myself. I think COM would not mind that I post it here for you. I hope you can take some comfort there, Albatross. Cedar . [/QUOTE]
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