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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 642760" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thanks Albatross. </p><p></p><p>Recently I heard it stated like this, "argue with reality and you suffer." This way of looking at life is saying "YES" to the moment, whatever the moment brings, without judging it as good or bad, but simply as what is. We are the ones that interpret that it isn't 'good' and thereby bringing pain. Geez, I have a lifetime of doing that. However, as I observe my responses and detach myself from my responses, I can see how I can evaluate my moments and how they can come up short by my own thinking......and then the emotional reaction follows.......oh boy.......</p><p></p><p>I've been reading a lot about how to not interpret, to attempt to simply perceive something without a label, without a judgement, simply an observation..........then there is an expansion of vitality, a sense of openness, whatever I am perceiving isn't diminished by my own thinking about it as right or wrong, or good or bad, or up or down, whatever........I practiced with my daughter in just allowing her to show up and my not having any thoughts about what she should be doing or what she should have done or been or said or anything.........it's been a very interesting expansion of our connection in ways I couldn't have understood before.</p><p></p><p>Someone pointed out to me years ago that I was "suffering over my suffering." It caught me off guard and I was pushed off of my reaction long enough to see that I was indeed doing that. (not without a certain amount of resentment first!!)</p><p></p><p>Our own thoughts can take us to the brink of insanity........well, mine can anyway.......I was reading the other day that suffering begins to subside when we simply say, "I've had enough of this, I don't want to do it anymore." My daughter pushed me into that place, it was so much suffering that I just got to a point where I refused to do it anymore. I think in understanding that second arrow you have the power to stop it. </p><p></p><p>To come to grips with this kind of acceptance where our children are involved is, in my humble opinion, a spiritual path of the highest order.....really, I do believe that.........to come to learn that we can accept what is when our children are, in our perceptions, suffering, is a tall order, and yet, it is not impossible. If one can walk through this particular fire and come out the other side having learned acceptance and to have let go of suffering.......... it brings a new level of awareness and the ability to let go and.........breathe.........to allow life.........</p><p></p><p>So, those of us here on this path, doing this incredibly difficult work to learn to let go......well, it isn't for naught, it is a high calling........and if it doesn't kill us, it will certainly set us free........</p><p></p><p>And, now, back to my cookie baking..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 642760, member: 13542"] Thanks Albatross. Recently I heard it stated like this, "argue with reality and you suffer." This way of looking at life is saying "YES" to the moment, whatever the moment brings, without judging it as good or bad, but simply as what is. We are the ones that interpret that it isn't 'good' and thereby bringing pain. Geez, I have a lifetime of doing that. However, as I observe my responses and detach myself from my responses, I can see how I can evaluate my moments and how they can come up short by my own thinking......and then the emotional reaction follows.......oh boy....... I've been reading a lot about how to not interpret, to attempt to simply perceive something without a label, without a judgement, simply an observation..........then there is an expansion of vitality, a sense of openness, whatever I am perceiving isn't diminished by my own thinking about it as right or wrong, or good or bad, or up or down, whatever........I practiced with my daughter in just allowing her to show up and my not having any thoughts about what she should be doing or what she should have done or been or said or anything.........it's been a very interesting expansion of our connection in ways I couldn't have understood before. Someone pointed out to me years ago that I was "suffering over my suffering." It caught me off guard and I was pushed off of my reaction long enough to see that I was indeed doing that. (not without a certain amount of resentment first!!) Our own thoughts can take us to the brink of insanity........well, mine can anyway.......I was reading the other day that suffering begins to subside when we simply say, "I've had enough of this, I don't want to do it anymore." My daughter pushed me into that place, it was so much suffering that I just got to a point where I refused to do it anymore. I think in understanding that second arrow you have the power to stop it. To come to grips with this kind of acceptance where our children are involved is, in my humble opinion, a spiritual path of the highest order.....really, I do believe that.........to come to learn that we can accept what is when our children are, in our perceptions, suffering, is a tall order, and yet, it is not impossible. If one can walk through this particular fire and come out the other side having learned acceptance and to have let go of suffering.......... it brings a new level of awareness and the ability to let go and.........breathe.........to allow life......... So, those of us here on this path, doing this incredibly difficult work to learn to let go......well, it isn't for naught, it is a high calling........and if it doesn't kill us, it will certainly set us free........ And, now, back to my cookie baking.......... [/QUOTE]
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