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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 30618" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Dreamer, re: <em>"There are no perfect answers that are going to work across the board. THere is nothing wrong with second guessing and rethinking things and reviewing and re-evaluating them when something happens in the world. "</em></p><p></p><p>AMEN! We learned the hard way that difficult child's issues are only part of the problem. He has these issues during adolescence, which is by definition a chaotic period of life, full of constant change.</p><p></p><p>As he changes, as his body grows, develops, and adjusts, his actions/reactions to his difficult child issues change as well. That's been one of the biggest thorns in my rear about this: just when you think you get something working, just when you sit down for a 5-minute break, suddenly nothing is working anymore and you're back in difficult child hell.</p><p></p><p>difficult child's therapist says the problem is the same, it's just that difficult child is also going through all the "normal" issues of being a teen, which makes things worse. Or, in his words, it's like saying "instead of just having the flu (which you can eventually get over), you end up with emphasyma as well (which you may never get over)"</p><p></p><p>After hearing from folks whose difficult child's have successfully made it to adulthood, I'm hoping that mine does too. I'm thinking that it isn't until the testosterone poisoning of the teenage years stops affecting their brains that they can actually step back, listen, and see what makes them a difficult child - then decide what they want to do.</p><p></p><p>Then again, like with my Dad, sometimes you're a difficult child your entire life.</p><p></p><p> :hammer: </p><p></p><p>Anyway, all I meant to say is how we deal with our difficult child seems to change on a daily basis. Even for the two years before he "came out" as a difficult child, when we thought it was only ADD, we were <strong>never</strong> afraid to change course when needed - whether that meant medications, treatments, or even doctors.</p><p></p><p>Life is never dull with a teenage difficult child. Draining, depressing, sometimes scary, occasionally fun and loving, but never dull.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 30618, member: 3579"] Dreamer, re: [i]"There are no perfect answers that are going to work across the board. THere is nothing wrong with second guessing and rethinking things and reviewing and re-evaluating them when something happens in the world. "[/i] AMEN! We learned the hard way that difficult child's issues are only part of the problem. He has these issues during adolescence, which is by definition a chaotic period of life, full of constant change. As he changes, as his body grows, develops, and adjusts, his actions/reactions to his difficult child issues change as well. That's been one of the biggest thorns in my rear about this: just when you think you get something working, just when you sit down for a 5-minute break, suddenly nothing is working anymore and you're back in difficult child hell. difficult child's therapist says the problem is the same, it's just that difficult child is also going through all the "normal" issues of being a teen, which makes things worse. Or, in his words, it's like saying "instead of just having the flu (which you can eventually get over), you end up with emphasyma as well (which you may never get over)" After hearing from folks whose difficult child's have successfully made it to adulthood, I'm hoping that mine does too. I'm thinking that it isn't until the testosterone poisoning of the teenage years stops affecting their brains that they can actually step back, listen, and see what makes them a difficult child - then decide what they want to do. Then again, like with my Dad, sometimes you're a difficult child your entire life. [img]:hammer:[/img] Anyway, all I meant to say is how we deal with our difficult child seems to change on a daily basis. Even for the two years before he "came out" as a difficult child, when we thought it was only ADD, we were [b]never[/b] afraid to change course when needed - whether that meant medications, treatments, or even doctors. Life is never dull with a teenage difficult child. Draining, depressing, sometimes scary, occasionally fun and loving, but never dull. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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