I am bothered by something difficult child 2's therapist said today. difficult child 2 is doing intensive exposure therapy for her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Her therapist suggested that she is getting a "secondary benefit" from being sick and that is contributing to her being in bed all of the time. While I agree her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is contributing to her being in bed, I do not think she likes having no friends and getting attention for being sick. A lot of the attention she gets is not positive. To me, this secondary benefit implies an assumption that there is nothing physically wrong with her any more, if ever. Before she had this chronic headache, she was an active athlete who was good at volleyball, swimming, and gymnastics. She used to always be tumbling in the yard until she started getting headaches from doing it. She was popular in school. She got good grades. I just don't think she would think being in her bed all of the time was a "benefit". What do other chronically ill people think about this?