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Seek's Journey: Some Experiences, Insights, Lessons, Tools, Other :)
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 717056" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>I think the bottom line for all of us that love someone that is addicted is that we have to give our self time, maybe even daily, to think about them and grieve for them and their struggle but we have to also live our own life and not make our entire being about trying to fix them. </p><p></p><p>We cannot fix them. Also usually us trying to help is enabling. Enabling is disabling.</p><p></p><p>With our son we keep pushing it back on him. He is almost 22. He is young but he is an adult and he's had every opportunity in life. So much more than so many others. So much more than I had certainly.</p><p></p><p>We know that by us doing for him it will only weaken him and we want to strengthen him. We stand in the background and support him but we are not saving him, fixing him or enabling him any longer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 717056, member: 15032"] I think the bottom line for all of us that love someone that is addicted is that we have to give our self time, maybe even daily, to think about them and grieve for them and their struggle but we have to also live our own life and not make our entire being about trying to fix them. We cannot fix them. Also usually us trying to help is enabling. Enabling is disabling. With our son we keep pushing it back on him. He is almost 22. He is young but he is an adult and he's had every opportunity in life. So much more than so many others. So much more than I had certainly. We know that by us doing for him it will only weaken him and we want to strengthen him. We stand in the background and support him but we are not saving him, fixing him or enabling him any longer. [/QUOTE]
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