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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 652542" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Since she is in from foster care, and likely abused, I'm not really surprised. I've seen a lot in foster care. These kids have been through so much, often not even remembering the worst of it, that they start early with self-abuse or abuse of others. Self-injury is a red flag for sexual abuse. We had a social worker visit us for a few days from another state with a child we unfortunately ended up adopting and we (social worker and I) talked in a friendly way for a long time and got a lot of stuff out of her that you normally don't hear from social workers. She told us that, although this is rarely told to parents, that probably 99.9% of the foster kids have been sexually abused either at home or in abusive foster homes.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why, but that surprised me.</p><p></p><p>And this was the social worker of the boy who sexually abused my two younger children and had to leave our family. Lots of foreshadowing there, but I honestly don't think she knew it...even his shrink didn't know.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, I would caution anyone adopting out of foster care especially older kids that you are going to have a lot of problems and they do start early and some don't resolve.</p><p></p><p>I would cut her nails so she can't hurt herself too badly and hide anything she could use to cut herself, such as forks and knives and razors, etc. Lock them up. Nothing else you can do but get her professional help pronto. The doctor you took her to obviously is rather clueless about kids from the foster care system. Unfortunately, many doctors don't know. I found that out first hand.</p><p></p><p>I give you kudos. After what happened with the child who abused our youngest two, we never again had the desire or the stones to consider foster care or older child adoption. You are very brave.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 652542, member: 1550"] Since she is in from foster care, and likely abused, I'm not really surprised. I've seen a lot in foster care. These kids have been through so much, often not even remembering the worst of it, that they start early with self-abuse or abuse of others. Self-injury is a red flag for sexual abuse. We had a social worker visit us for a few days from another state with a child we unfortunately ended up adopting and we (social worker and I) talked in a friendly way for a long time and got a lot of stuff out of her that you normally don't hear from social workers. She told us that, although this is rarely told to parents, that probably 99.9% of the foster kids have been sexually abused either at home or in abusive foster homes. I don't know why, but that surprised me. And this was the social worker of the boy who sexually abused my two younger children and had to leave our family. Lots of foreshadowing there, but I honestly don't think she knew it...even his shrink didn't know. At any rate, I would caution anyone adopting out of foster care especially older kids that you are going to have a lot of problems and they do start early and some don't resolve. I would cut her nails so she can't hurt herself too badly and hide anything she could use to cut herself, such as forks and knives and razors, etc. Lock them up. Nothing else you can do but get her professional help pronto. The doctor you took her to obviously is rather clueless about kids from the foster care system. Unfortunately, many doctors don't know. I found that out first hand. I give you kudos. After what happened with the child who abused our youngest two, we never again had the desire or the stones to consider foster care or older child adoption. You are very brave. [/QUOTE]
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