Im going to Disneyland, although my parents live 10 minutes from there I haven't seen or spoken to my mom in years. Without the gory abusive details, she doesnt deserve to have me or my kids in her life. by the way, I talk to my dad. They're still married. He's old and sickly, and I did want us to see him before he dies. My mom is young 60, I'm 42.That's why I planned this vacation. My teenage boys are less than thrilled with the whole Disneyland thing.
My dad left me an ANGRY ranting message that if I don't see my mom, then I won't see him either. Nobody speaks to me like that in my life, people never yell at me. There is never any reason to talk to someone in that way, but I grew up like that and I do not under any terms want to see either of them now. Truly, after that message, I'm done with seeing them.
But I called him back and spoke very kindly and said everything he wanted to hear without entirely agreeing (I have a brother that dissapeared from all our lives many years ago-we don;t know where he lives, or even if he's still alive. Just to give some backround on what kind of parents we had)
The reason I called him and spoke kindly is my husband is upset, he thinks our kids should see them. I cant do it, I know I don't want to see either of them, but I may have regrets later.
The regrets later is my reason. It's not long that I would have to spend with them, but I'll feel good knowing I punished them. I'm crazy, I know. What do you think I should do? My heart says I shouldn't see them, but my kids ......I'm torn.-Alyssa
My dad left me an ANGRY ranting message that if I don't see my mom, then I won't see him either. Nobody speaks to me like that in my life, people never yell at me. There is never any reason to talk to someone in that way, but I grew up like that and I do not under any terms want to see either of them now. Truly, after that message, I'm done with seeing them.
But I called him back and spoke very kindly and said everything he wanted to hear without entirely agreeing (I have a brother that dissapeared from all our lives many years ago-we don;t know where he lives, or even if he's still alive. Just to give some backround on what kind of parents we had)
The reason I called him and spoke kindly is my husband is upset, he thinks our kids should see them. I cant do it, I know I don't want to see either of them, but I may have regrets later.
The regrets later is my reason. It's not long that I would have to spend with them, but I'll feel good knowing I punished them. I'm crazy, I know. What do you think I should do? My heart says I shouldn't see them, but my kids ......I'm torn.-Alyssa