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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 631397" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I do, Alb. It's because it is 100% different from how we, and a large part of the rest of the world, thinks and behaves. It is not normal. I believe most people gain a sense of satisfaction and esteem from working hard, making a contribution, earning their own way and being good and tired at the end of the day. </p><p></p><p>But not difficult children, particularly drug addicts. </p><p></p><p>Really, it's the aberrant thinking---way more than the actual drug use, although it's awful and painful to be the presence of my difficult child when he is high----that I dislike the most. </p><p></p><p>Actually, I can't stand the thinking and the attitude and the mouthing off and the blame game and the victimhood. I dislike it so much that I end up disgusted and having no respect for the person whose mouth that stuff is coming out of.</p><p></p><p>I just plain don't like that kind of thinking----from anyone. </p><p></p><p>But I must accept it. I can do that if I have a LOT of distance, time and space between me and that person. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Way to go, Alb! That is exactly my goal and my aspiration. Listen, smile and then...."give him a quick hug and send him on his way." </p><p></p><p>And then, let it all go, what I just heard. And go on about MY life. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can let it go, Alb. I know what those kinds of visits can cost us all. </p><p></p><p>We just can't change another person, as much as we love them and as much as we would like to. They have to do the work themselves.</p><p></p><p>May we all have a growing strength to just....let them go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 631397, member: 17542"] I do, Alb. It's because it is 100% different from how we, and a large part of the rest of the world, thinks and behaves. It is not normal. I believe most people gain a sense of satisfaction and esteem from working hard, making a contribution, earning their own way and being good and tired at the end of the day. But not difficult children, particularly drug addicts. Really, it's the aberrant thinking---way more than the actual drug use, although it's awful and painful to be the presence of my difficult child when he is high----that I dislike the most. Actually, I can't stand the thinking and the attitude and the mouthing off and the blame game and the victimhood. I dislike it so much that I end up disgusted and having no respect for the person whose mouth that stuff is coming out of. I just plain don't like that kind of thinking----from anyone. But I must accept it. I can do that if I have a LOT of distance, time and space between me and that person. Way to go, Alb! That is exactly my goal and my aspiration. Listen, smile and then...."give him a quick hug and send him on his way." And then, let it all go, what I just heard. And go on about MY life. I hope you can let it go, Alb. I know what those kinds of visits can cost us all. We just can't change another person, as much as we love them and as much as we would like to. They have to do the work themselves. May we all have a growing strength to just....let them go. [/QUOTE]
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