I am brand spanking new here but i am hoping someone can help me. a little back story on my difficult child. Had trouble with him with pot and cigarettes since he was about 15 years old. Got in trouble with the law over cigarettes and pot at school. Since graduating, he is at the end of a one year probation for having a prohibited weapon at school in his car. It was old pocketknife in the glove box but they searched his car because of a beer can and an empty pack of cigs in plain sight. He graduated from high school this year and promptly got a DWI. Blew a 0 because he had been smoking potpourri, not drinking alcohol.. charges still pending on that. I have paid out 1300 in legal bills this year to include the fines and probation, car impounds, etc. He subsequently wrecked two cars in the past year and now he doesnt have one. He had a job for about a week and then quit that. He smokes this fake pot all the time and so do all of his freinds. They are in and out in the garage all day and night. Some teens trade different things to him for the fake weed. The things range from playstations, to games, to someones grandmas silver. He sells or pawns these items for money to buy the fake weed. Last night a lady came over who had just put her son in rehab and she wanted her things back. My difficult child made up all kinds of lies and promises but we dont know what the truth is about where her stuff is. He is disrepectful to me always, screaming at me, cursing me, blaming me, etc and then the bomb got dropped. He has stolen all of my jewelry.. worth thousands and worth much more to me emotionally because these are things I cant replace that I have had for 20+ years. He sold them to a gold buyer and I cant get them back. I am heartbroken. meanwhile, the lady came over again last night and started naming things off that she was missing and I tried to see if we had anything there. I saw a playstation and we assumed it was hers. I gave it to her. He came home and blew a fuse on me saying it wasnt hers and I needed to drive him over to get it back. it was after midnite and I refused. He got a ride and blew the horn at the womans house until the police came. he was not arrested but he came home at 2am screaming at me about how I almost got him arrested because I wouldnt take him there like I should since i "let her steal is Playstation". I told him I would ask the woman to give it back but i really wanted to help her recover what property was really hers. He just keeps saying he has the silverware and her bracelets that he tried to sell but they were not real but he "lost" them in our house. I dont believe they are lost. I dont know what to do. I am thinking in my heart that I have to ask him to leave. He is causing so much chaos and has for years now, that I am at my breaking point. He is more worried about a video game than my jewelry or my feelings or my job. I would be fired if they knew my son was effectively recieving stolen property into my house. I just dont know how to go about putting him out. its cold here and rainy and he has no where to go. BUT.. he is driving us crazy with all the yelling and cursing and blaming. He wont do any chores.. just flat refuses to. he wont obey any rule and hasnt for years. I told him when I found out about the jewelry that he A. had to go to bed at midnite, 2. could not have freinds over at all 3. couldnt sleep on the couch anymore.. (he sleeps there instead of his bed and wont stop even though its tearing up my couch). The next day he had a friend over. then the next day a different friend. It was 2am when he was screaming at me about the playstation and he was slamming all the doors waking up my easy child. Im at my wits end with this boy. He is 19 now, graduated HS. Has no motivation to go to college or work. He is living the dream in my house doing whatever he pleases. Someone please give me some direction here. Please.