<Sigh>. Since difficult child turned 12 and a half, she has been a nightmare. The hell that I have endured, I don't think anyone, ANYONE, could bare it. For the last five years, I must have said a million times to her, "I can NOT wait until you turn 18. Well, 18 is coming soon and I for the life of me do not know how I am going to detach. I will definitely have to move, that's a give in. My lease is up the same time she turns 18. Getting her to pack up all of her stuff and actually move out is going to be the HUGEST problem. That's the part that's going to be EXTREMELY hard because I know her. She will refuse to believe that I am serious. She has told me time and time again "You're not going no where.". Oh but I am. I really am. The only reason why I had to tolerate her BS is because I was LEGALLY obligated to. When she turns 18, guess what? I AM NO LONGER LEGALLY OBLIGATED TO!!!! When I tell her that, she seems not to hear me. She is not saving any of her paychecks either.
I am hoping she will have a place to go. I believe my mother will take her in and if she doesn't this will be twice as a hard. The LAST thing I want to do is leave my daughter stranded. She really is NOT that bad, but living with me, she takes full advantage of me. Takes my money, my car, my things, doesn't clean up after herself and the only way to stop that is by forcing her and the only way to force her is for me to leave the situation. I had my daughter when I was 16. My life has been sacrificed MORE than enough. I need to salvage what "youth" I have left. I need to be able to work and leave my house without wondering what the hell is going on at home. I need my things, my car, and my money. I need my sanity. I need to be selfish or I will never have any money and I will not have enough for retirement. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. Despite my warnings, she is not preparing to move out. She thinks I am just talking.
Every situation is unique and I need some advice tailored to my situation. My main question is, what do I do if she has no where to go by the time my lease is up and she is 18?
I am hoping she will have a place to go. I believe my mother will take her in and if she doesn't this will be twice as a hard. The LAST thing I want to do is leave my daughter stranded. She really is NOT that bad, but living with me, she takes full advantage of me. Takes my money, my car, my things, doesn't clean up after herself and the only way to stop that is by forcing her and the only way to force her is for me to leave the situation. I had my daughter when I was 16. My life has been sacrificed MORE than enough. I need to salvage what "youth" I have left. I need to be able to work and leave my house without wondering what the hell is going on at home. I need my things, my car, and my money. I need my sanity. I need to be selfish or I will never have any money and I will not have enough for retirement. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. Despite my warnings, she is not preparing to move out. She thinks I am just talking.
Every situation is unique and I need some advice tailored to my situation. My main question is, what do I do if she has no where to go by the time my lease is up and she is 18?
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