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Seven more months until difficult child turns 18
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 627799" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Found it!</p><p>So, yes, I'd say sit down and talk with her and apologize for the talking-to-family-too-much thing.</p><p>Tell her that you are going to a therapist (I assume you've made an appointment or are already going) and someday you'd love for her to come along. Don't pressure her.</p><p>Tell her that you need to take care of yourself, which doesn't mean that you don't love her; you are just worn out.</p><p>I have no idea what drives her ego, but if it would make her feel like an adult, tell her you know she can handle living on her own and you would be proud of her.</p><p>If you know that she can't, tell her that you are willing to help her through the steps.</p><p>She will argue. Expect that. Don't argue back.</p><p>The hard part is always zipping your lip. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Just keep breathing.</p><p>And make a plan.</p><p>What-ifs don't help. You need a pen and paper or computer and a step-by-step plan. Do not share it all with her. Just give her info on a need-to-know basis. If she is that dependent upon you that she takes everything, she is going to panic when she finds out that this is real. That could cause even more behavior issues.</p><p>Just respond, if you can, with "Let's talk about it. We can talk more tomorrow."</p><p>Fingers crossed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 627799, member: 3419"] Found it! So, yes, I'd say sit down and talk with her and apologize for the talking-to-family-too-much thing. Tell her that you are going to a therapist (I assume you've made an appointment or are already going) and someday you'd love for her to come along. Don't pressure her. Tell her that you need to take care of yourself, which doesn't mean that you don't love her; you are just worn out. I have no idea what drives her ego, but if it would make her feel like an adult, tell her you know she can handle living on her own and you would be proud of her. If you know that she can't, tell her that you are willing to help her through the steps. She will argue. Expect that. Don't argue back. The hard part is always zipping your lip. :) Just keep breathing. And make a plan. What-ifs don't help. You need a pen and paper or computer and a step-by-step plan. Do not share it all with her. Just give her info on a need-to-know basis. If she is that dependent upon you that she takes everything, she is going to panic when she finds out that this is real. That could cause even more behavior issues. Just respond, if you can, with "Let's talk about it. We can talk more tomorrow." Fingers crossed. [/QUOTE]
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