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Seven years later - daughter on another continent - same issues
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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 700276" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>Update time! I waited several days and sent a very short email response to Difficult Child. Basically told her that we have faith in her ability to navigate her life and that she no longer needs our advice or help. Received a reply early this morning. She thanked me and said she loved us. She called me at work 30 minutes ago. Very pleasant. I waited for the "money request" but no outward one came. </p><p></p><p>Difficult Child said she had recently worked on a boat for a 2 week temp job. Supposedly didn't earn very much but her "room & food" were covered with a little stipend in addition (never know what the real truth is). This is the most she has worked in 2 years!!! She CAN do it. I told her I was really happy to hear that. She implied that her next course of travel (she wants to ride her bicycle from Bangkok, where it is currently in storage, to Vietnam) would cost some money but that once she started the trip she wouldn't be drinking and would be staying in local village rooms. Also said she was going to be smart and not get into any fights or frequent the bars. I think she's in a bit of a 'manic' stage, where she gets really focused and optimistic. Difficult Child said she chose Vietnam as the end of this cycling project, as "it is the country with the best opportunities for foreign workers." </p><p></p><p>She asked my opinions on a few things. I bit my tongue and turned it around, reminding her that I have never cycled anywhere other than my own city and that she knows herself and the landscape there better than I do. She asked me about "how to market her trip", as she wants to blog it, etc. Told her she needed to do her research, as this is her journey. She agreed. </p><p></p><p>It was a nice 30 minute conversation. The entire time, I had this post open on my computer, so that I wouldn't cave in if she started asking for support/assistance. I was an active listener and offered positive feedback. I will remain cautiously optimistic. This is only the beginning of the next month or so that she has planned for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 700276, member: 355"] Update time! I waited several days and sent a very short email response to Difficult Child. Basically told her that we have faith in her ability to navigate her life and that she no longer needs our advice or help. Received a reply early this morning. She thanked me and said she loved us. She called me at work 30 minutes ago. Very pleasant. I waited for the "money request" but no outward one came. Difficult Child said she had recently worked on a boat for a 2 week temp job. Supposedly didn't earn very much but her "room & food" were covered with a little stipend in addition (never know what the real truth is). This is the most she has worked in 2 years!!! She CAN do it. I told her I was really happy to hear that. She implied that her next course of travel (she wants to ride her bicycle from Bangkok, where it is currently in storage, to Vietnam) would cost some money but that once she started the trip she wouldn't be drinking and would be staying in local village rooms. Also said she was going to be smart and not get into any fights or frequent the bars. I think she's in a bit of a 'manic' stage, where she gets really focused and optimistic. Difficult Child said she chose Vietnam as the end of this cycling project, as "it is the country with the best opportunities for foreign workers." She asked my opinions on a few things. I bit my tongue and turned it around, reminding her that I have never cycled anywhere other than my own city and that she knows herself and the landscape there better than I do. She asked me about "how to market her trip", as she wants to blog it, etc. Told her she needed to do her research, as this is her journey. She agreed. It was a nice 30 minute conversation. The entire time, I had this post open on my computer, so that I wouldn't cave in if she started asking for support/assistance. I was an active listener and offered positive feedback. I will remain cautiously optimistic. This is only the beginning of the next month or so that she has planned for. [/QUOTE]
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