Its no secret c-difficult child's weight concerns me. Has for a while. More so the habits that lead to the weight, but like so many things, I've let it go. The adults in her life have allowed it, there is little to nothing I can do about it. In the summer, when she's with us half the time or more, she loses weight and exercises because of the way we live and eat and because she's with her mom more, who doesn't let her eat anything and everything she wants, as grandma does. As soon as school starts, the weight comes back on. *** Anyway, I brought the bodice of a dress in to work today. A co-worker and friend also sews. I am making a dress for cultured difficult child, and I wanted this lady's opinion on an idea I had to modify it to accommodate her changing shape. It had nothing to do with the girls weight, other than a way to make a dress that I won't have to remake in a few months. The girl is bound to grow some boobs at some point...ya know? *** I have talked to this woman before about my concerns about c-difficult child's habits, and this lady, being large herself, always just told me to back off and not judge her and really got onto me for calling c-difficult child fat (which I have not done, but she's a bit defensive, so if I brought up her weight in the past, she'd get angry at me for calling the girl fat). *** I explained my idea about the bodice to her. She wanted to know why I wanted to make it so flexible, and I said that since c-difficult child has gained 3 pants sizes since December, that I wanted to be sure it would accommodate her if she grew more, and this woman about came unglued. She opened a regular ol' can of whoop-donkey on me about how unhealthy that is, and how we need to be getting her to the doctor. She all but yelled! *** OMG. I understand her concern, but really, I've been concerned about this child's weight and, moreso, eating and exercise habits for some time now. There's nothing I can do, so I let it go. Why is a drastic weight gain at 12-13 so much more important than the ones at 9, 10, and 11 when she had equally proportionate weight gains... *** I can't win for losing. I just wanted sewing advice...I gave up on the healthy eating/weight advice long ago!