Before the meeting with the SD Friday, I talked with difficult child's early intervention preschool teacher. She was AMAZING with difficult child. In fact, in her class, you wouldn't know he WAS a difficult child. I asked her for tips and input to give to the para's now. We talked about having me or someone else who works closely with difficult child and who can diffuse him go to school and sit in the back ground and watch. Hopefully to be able to see what is triggering difficult child at school and to give the para's pointers to see difficult child "losing it" soon enough to stop a full blown melt down. difficult child has never had a major meltdown with one uncle. Uncle handles him a little more "manly" than I do, and doesn't keep him terribly often, but when he does, he can handle difficult child. I'm not sure, tho, that he will be able to see the early signs and point them out. He's retired, and has helped with difficult child being suspended. I am still struggling to recover from mono and every other bug I've picked up along the way. I literally have been in bed ALL weekend. I haven't left the house. If I am the one who shadows difficult child, I will also be taking time off work without pay. And there's always the possibility that difficult child will act differently with either Uncle or me just being present in the classroom. I guess I'm torn right now what the best avenue is. Do I go tomorrow, do I send uncle, do we even try this...or just start bringing difficult child home after half days...? I don't know. Any thoughts?