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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 47801" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I tried to protect my easy child's from my difficult child's but could not. I don't think it is completly possible. No matter what we do as parents of difficult child's our easy child's are going to have some negative impacts. If we sent our difficult child's away, PCs might morn the loss of a sibling. If we keep our difficult children in our home and deal with the issues as best we can, our easy child's will have different issues. It truly is a loose loose situation. We did the very best we could do. We all need to let go of our guilt. Guilt which lasts beyond its real purpose of driving us to do the right thing, is unhealthy and useless. I feel sad that my easy child's were affected by difficult child's actions but I no longer feel guilty about it. each of my easy child's and difficult child's were offered counciling to help deal with the many issues that came up over the years. They mostly chose not to go. My ultimate goal for my family was to be a happy healthy functioning unit. I worked hard and made many sacrifices toward that end. Unfortunately it didn't come to full fruitation. </p><p>But I did learn something from it all. If we acknowledge that we could not control our difficult child's then we also have to acknowledge that we could not control their effects on others. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 47801, member: 2315"] I tried to protect my easy child's from my difficult child's but could not. I don't think it is completly possible. No matter what we do as parents of difficult child's our easy child's are going to have some negative impacts. If we sent our difficult child's away, PCs might morn the loss of a sibling. If we keep our difficult children in our home and deal with the issues as best we can, our easy child's will have different issues. It truly is a loose loose situation. We did the very best we could do. We all need to let go of our guilt. Guilt which lasts beyond its real purpose of driving us to do the right thing, is unhealthy and useless. I feel sad that my easy child's were affected by difficult child's actions but I no longer feel guilty about it. each of my easy child's and difficult child's were offered counciling to help deal with the many issues that came up over the years. They mostly chose not to go. My ultimate goal for my family was to be a happy healthy functioning unit. I worked hard and made many sacrifices toward that end. Unfortunately it didn't come to full fruitation. But I did learn something from it all. If we acknowledge that we could not control our difficult child's then we also have to acknowledge that we could not control their effects on others. -RM [/QUOTE]
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