She graduated!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Nancy, Jun 7, 2009.

  1. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    difficult child turned 18 yesterday and graduated today. She looked lovely and was actually nice to us. I never thought this day would come.

    I took a walk with husband tonight and we both said how relieved we were and that the next phase of her life is up to her. We are taking one day at a time and while I have no idea what the future holds, it does feel very good to have this day behind us.

  2. MaryB

    MaryB New Member

    I so know what you mean. It's a big hurdle, however, the future still looms. What is our job in that future? Is there a job for us to still do as Warrior Parents? Don't get me wrong, but it saddens me. I think that yes, we still have a job to do with our difficult child's. Maybe not as it was in HS but still there. Little by little, we can start giving up our semi-control of situations and let our difficult child's take the reins.

  3. Penta

    Penta New Member

    Yes, you all have achieved a great milestone. Be proud and take what comes next, one day at a time. Congratulations!
  4. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Congratulations! I'm certain she would not have made it this far without you and your husband!
  5. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Now that she has graduated...I've exhaled!...and am wondering about her future choices. Does your State have college tuition programs available for graduates where she "could" "on her own" opt to matriculate somewhere away from home? I'm sure she isn't ready to major in Rocket
    Science just yet ;) it possible that she could leave home and go to a campus? That would be a relief for you all and might provide a little bit of security for her as she explores her freedom. Curious, as always. DDD
  6. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    DDD she is currently enrolled in one of our state universities about an hour from home. The deal we made with her months ago was that if she took an english course at the community college this summer to improve her skills and she follows our house rules we will pay her tuition. She has one year to prove herself. If she fails any course or parties to excess and gets into trouble she has to come home and either enroll in a tech school or get a full time job and find a place to live. It's all up to her. I don't think we can be any fairer than that.

    The english class actually started two weeks ago M-TH 8-10. She has gone every day so far. It's a fairly easy course for her but is the one she tested into in the college pretesting. Her vocab/sentence structure skills are low because she hated to read. She finds herself in class with many people whose education level is fairly low, and that in and of itself I think is an eye opener for her.

    You know as much as I say I'm done now, we are still trying to make sure she has all the opportunities she needs to function in the real world.

    Thanks for all your support. It means a lot to me.

    Last edited: Jun 8, 2009
  7. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Nancy...any chance you want to adopt me? I really am a pretty nice woman who is really medication compliant!
  8. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Congrats! I am still keeping my fingers crossed!
  9. bby31288

    bby31288 Active Member

    Congrats. I am so glad you are over this hurdle. easy child 18 graduates this year on June 24. I am waiting to exhale and to be in your shoes. It has been a tough year, I so need this to be done and over so I can say she graduated.
  10. DazedandConfused

    DazedandConfused Active Member


    (Check THAT ONE off the list)
  11. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    LOL Janet, I'd be happy to. I wish difficult child was medication compliant but she still doesn't see the benefit. We sure do see the other side of her when she doesn't though.

  12. Penta

    Penta New Member

    I think your deal is perfect. Allowing her to keep her end of the bargain, so she can go off to school in the fall and being very up front about what she needs to do to stay there.
  13. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Congrats Nancy! Sending many hugs your way. I think your deal with difficult child is a good one!
  14. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    So proud. And so relieved.
  15. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Way To Go, Nancy! Fingers crossed. DDD
  16. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Congrats, Nancy!!
    This is a real accomplishment. Without a diploma, she's sunk, but she did it and you did it too!!!:D
  17. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    How wonderful for a variety of reasons!
    And its also wonderful to hear that your daughter is trying hard at this English class.
    I know things have been VERY rough, but these are good things and some clear positives.