My daughter, Miss 12, is going through adoption therapy since she is wondering about her birthfamily. It's going to be complicated and I want her to have the best help. The problem is, *I* need help too...lol. Going through this has about killed me and my anxiety is through the roof. And we met with an adoption therapist (she is a psychologist). My daughter REALLY likes her (I don't know why...lol). I don't think she can help me at all. A more reputable one exists, but she likes THIS one. I'd go to my own, but there aren't many therapists for adoptive mothers who are going through reunion issues with their kids...lol. Seriously, there are many therapists for the adopted kids and their issues. There are many groups/support groups for birthparents, but I can't find anyone who understands these issues from the perspective of an adoptive mother, except those whose primary patient is the child. Things are improving. The birthmother did contact me, and she was sweeter than I even remember her and I e-mailed her back and feel confident that we can work together. However, she isn't that free to have a relationship with my daughter because her hub doesn't really want her to. I'm a mess. I just want order and sanity back in my life from somebody who understands the stresses that can happen when you adopt a child, even a very good child (and she is the best). This therapist that my daughter likes--I don't think she is helpful. But daughter does. What would YOU do? (Yes, I ramble. I hope I made sense).