I have given my difficult child 3 weeks since we found that she had stolen money and jewelry from us to clean up her life. I guess her time is up. I found drug evidence in her purse 2 days ago and confronted her today after husband and I had agreed on a plan. Her option was treatment through our medical insurance or the juvenile system. She said she agreed to go, didn't want any part of jail. So we said she must stay home until we get something arranged with Kaiser Permanente. She would go to school only until the plans were worked out. I guess I should have realized that it seemed too easy. It was too quiet upstairs so husband checked to see if she was ok and lo and behold she had left without anyone seeing. So with a sad heart but strangely calm I called the police to charge her with the crimes. The officer involved is now on his 3 days off so I agreed to wait until Wednesday(when he gets back) to actually charge her. Seems strange to me but I suppose there is no huge rush. I just feel sad for her. husband says he hardly feels anything for her anymore. He's tired of being jerked around. I won't change my plans but I feel sorry for her. I guess I'm posting not to get answers but more to vent. Thanks for listening.