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She stole $13,000
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<blockquote data-quote="Stealing" data-source="post: 704227" data-attributes="member: 21136"><p>Thanks, you're right. It's definitely all up to her - and that's why I don't think I should even get involved with making her tell her mom or anything like that. Trust me, I agree that it's morally dark behavior and that's why I'm having a hard time processing it. Like I said - I knew before she "borrowed" money but I thought it was like... a couple hundred before she got her next paycheck, and then it all went back in when she got paid again. I mean, it's still sketchy, but I thought she was on hard times and I thought it was being immediately paid back. Sort of like asking your parents for help in a pinch, but she did it without asking which was the sketchy part. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, yeah, I may seek some professional counseling or something briefly to help me figure out what is best for me and how to proceed. As far as stealing goes, well, I believe she hasn't been a habitual thief. I never observed any behavior like that when we lived together, before, or after. I did know about this "borrowing" of money, but like I said my impression was different; perhaps it's my fault for not asking her for more details - it sounds like she "borrowed" and didn't return like I thought, and it just got way out of hand and now she owes a lot. </p><p></p><p>As funny as it sounds, I don't know how to talk to her about it. If I dealt with something like this on the job it would be really clean cut.... but since it's someone I'm close to and care about, it's not. I don't want to make her feel like a terrible person since she already expressed remorse and anxiety - but I also feel like it's something we HAVE to talk about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stealing, post: 704227, member: 21136"] Thanks, you're right. It's definitely all up to her - and that's why I don't think I should even get involved with making her tell her mom or anything like that. Trust me, I agree that it's morally dark behavior and that's why I'm having a hard time processing it. Like I said - I knew before she "borrowed" money but I thought it was like... a couple hundred before she got her next paycheck, and then it all went back in when she got paid again. I mean, it's still sketchy, but I thought she was on hard times and I thought it was being immediately paid back. Sort of like asking your parents for help in a pinch, but she did it without asking which was the sketchy part. Anyway, yeah, I may seek some professional counseling or something briefly to help me figure out what is best for me and how to proceed. As far as stealing goes, well, I believe she hasn't been a habitual thief. I never observed any behavior like that when we lived together, before, or after. I did know about this "borrowing" of money, but like I said my impression was different; perhaps it's my fault for not asking her for more details - it sounds like she "borrowed" and didn't return like I thought, and it just got way out of hand and now she owes a lot. As funny as it sounds, I don't know how to talk to her about it. If I dealt with something like this on the job it would be really clean cut.... but since it's someone I'm close to and care about, it's not. I don't want to make her feel like a terrible person since she already expressed remorse and anxiety - but I also feel like it's something we HAVE to talk about. [/QUOTE]
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