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She stole $13,000
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 704265" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Good.</p><p>I agree.</p><p>My experience teaches me that these kinds of conversations do not occur in one day. They are ongoing. They may take years. And from the evolution of the conversation (and relationship) change occurs. The conversation is the changing. The changing is the conversation. And this makes commitment.</p><p></p><p>You will be starting this conversation with somebody who has had an entirely different cultural conversation than you. She was raised in her system, not yours. She arrived in this situation based upon choices by her mother, and the nature of the relationship of her parents--which may well be cultural in origin. Not necessarily a personal failure of your girlfriend. The crime is not hers alone.</p><p></p><p>I think the first conversation is with yourself, about your willingness and capacity to take on a relationship that begins from different places. (well all relationships do, but cultural differences exaggerate everything.)</p><p></p><p>It is about commitment. If you love this girl enough to decide to have a lifelong conversation with her about difficult things. This is between you and you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 704265, member: 18958"] Good. I agree. My experience teaches me that these kinds of conversations do not occur in one day. They are ongoing. They may take years. And from the evolution of the conversation (and relationship) change occurs. The conversation is the changing. The changing is the conversation. And this makes commitment. You will be starting this conversation with somebody who has had an entirely different cultural conversation than you. She was raised in her system, not yours. She arrived in this situation based upon choices by her mother, and the nature of the relationship of her parents--which may well be cultural in origin. Not necessarily a personal failure of your girlfriend. The crime is not hers alone. I think the first conversation is with yourself, about your willingness and capacity to take on a relationship that begins from different places. (well all relationships do, but cultural differences exaggerate everything.) It is about commitment. If you love this girl enough to decide to have a lifelong conversation with her about difficult things. This is between you and you. [/QUOTE]
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