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<blockquote data-quote="WordNerd" data-source="post: 686027" data-attributes="member: 20276"><p>Well, Day 6. The phone went on Day 1. Told him if he wanted a phone, he could get a job and buy one and pay for the bill. Started limiting his internet time (8 hours from the time he wakes up he gets the passcode to the wifi). Also told him he has until tomorrow to fix his sleep schedule, and then the internet goes off at bedtime and doesn't go back on until we wake up in the morning.</p><p></p><p>It went okay the first two days. He wasn't happy about it, but hung out with us and talked. Now, he's said he will not do any school work if we continue to take the internet away, the whole "you're ruining my life" and "only she can make me happy bit." We're working on talking to him about taking up music lessons during the no internet time, but no luck so far. He's also not allowed to be left alone at home until further notice. That will be a battle for Tuesday when he's supposed to go to class with me.</p><p></p><p>I wanted to take away the internet completely until the three of us sat down and got it resolved. I discussed it with dad, and dad lashed out at me. Hard. Not physical, but verbally. Dad refuses to listen to any reasoning about taking Son to see Girlfriend. I know Dad and I need counseling to get on same page, but dad is putting it off, the usual "we will" (the trip is scheduled for the 12th). Hopefully we get an appointment before then. Dad wants to avoid the issues in the hopes it will fix itself (which makes son lash at me with "dad doesn't want to punish me. It's all you ruining my happiness.") Then Dad tells me I am a horrible mom because I am willing to accept the idea that Son might run away if we don't let him go, that I am wanting to be too hard on him by taking internet everyday.</p><p></p><p>Today, Son is refusing to speak to either dad or me. I have gone in his room a few times and talked at him. I have done my best to let him know I love him, but am standing my ground. Reminded him about no internet/bedtime tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>It's bubbling. It's going to get worse tomorrow. I know that. I feel like I'm fighting Dad as much as Son every step of the way. I feel like I am the only parent in this relationship. I feel like tomorrow is going to be a tough day and I am frustrated because I am bogged down with final papers these next two weeks and the trip date keeps getting closer and, no matter what I say, dad just doesn't get it.</p><p></p><p>I have my daughter. I have my garden (as soon as it stays warm). I have some rocky road in the fridge. Just trying to keep it together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WordNerd, post: 686027, member: 20276"] Well, Day 6. The phone went on Day 1. Told him if he wanted a phone, he could get a job and buy one and pay for the bill. Started limiting his internet time (8 hours from the time he wakes up he gets the passcode to the wifi). Also told him he has until tomorrow to fix his sleep schedule, and then the internet goes off at bedtime and doesn't go back on until we wake up in the morning. It went okay the first two days. He wasn't happy about it, but hung out with us and talked. Now, he's said he will not do any school work if we continue to take the internet away, the whole "you're ruining my life" and "only she can make me happy bit." We're working on talking to him about taking up music lessons during the no internet time, but no luck so far. He's also not allowed to be left alone at home until further notice. That will be a battle for Tuesday when he's supposed to go to class with me. I wanted to take away the internet completely until the three of us sat down and got it resolved. I discussed it with dad, and dad lashed out at me. Hard. Not physical, but verbally. Dad refuses to listen to any reasoning about taking Son to see Girlfriend. I know Dad and I need counseling to get on same page, but dad is putting it off, the usual "we will" (the trip is scheduled for the 12th). Hopefully we get an appointment before then. Dad wants to avoid the issues in the hopes it will fix itself (which makes son lash at me with "dad doesn't want to punish me. It's all you ruining my happiness.") Then Dad tells me I am a horrible mom because I am willing to accept the idea that Son might run away if we don't let him go, that I am wanting to be too hard on him by taking internet everyday. Today, Son is refusing to speak to either dad or me. I have gone in his room a few times and talked at him. I have done my best to let him know I love him, but am standing my ground. Reminded him about no internet/bedtime tomorrow. It's bubbling. It's going to get worse tomorrow. I know that. I feel like I'm fighting Dad as much as Son every step of the way. I feel like I am the only parent in this relationship. I feel like tomorrow is going to be a tough day and I am frustrated because I am bogged down with final papers these next two weeks and the trip date keeps getting closer and, no matter what I say, dad just doesn't get it. I have my daughter. I have my garden (as soon as it stays warm). I have some rocky road in the fridge. Just trying to keep it together. [/QUOTE]
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