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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 710686" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Given her behavior, I don't buy that she is clean. She may not be on heroin, but she is on something. If those counselors think she is doing so great, why don't they take her home with them? </p><p></p><p>Yes, why counselors have given me THAT look when I have said my son was not doing well and they acted like some stupid cheerleader and said "Oh, but he is doing SO GOOD", I have 100% told them they were welcome to take him home with them to see his behaviors for themselves. </p><p></p><p>Funny, but not a single, solitary one of them ever did. Not one. Ever. They all looked at me like something was wrong with ME for saying something was wrong with him. Generally that is when I started looking for a new therapist or doctor because I knew this one had no dang sense. </p><p></p><p>You know something is wrong with your daughter, that her behavior is wrong. That she is a grown woman who is in the wrong. Where were you in life at age 31? I bet it was not waiting for Mommy to come and get you to fix your life. I bet you had kids and a career and a life. I bet you were using the tools you had gotten for yourself and were making your way in the world.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is making her way in the world to. She is screaming and wailing until someone fixes all her messes and treats her like a little princess and she doesn't have to work a full week a month. She has learned how to get out of it by manipulating everyone around her by having hissy fits and playing games. It is time to let her live in her own messes and stop fixing things for her. It is time for you to enjoy your life, do what you want to do, and enjoy the fruits of your own labors. You work hard, and have for a very long time. there is no reason to waste your work on a person who wants to not work. Let her go and not work out on the streets until she gets tired of that and chooses to pull her life together and use the brain in her head and her college education to get a job and support herself. Until then, and until she can behave like a reasonable human being with reasonable boundaries, she doesn't need to be around you.</p><p></p><p>Read the recommended books. They will change your life. Go to AlAnon or NarcAnon Family Group Meetings. They will change your life. Addiction is a family illness. The whole family is ill. I know. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My brother is an alcoholic, thankfully in recovery. AlAnon changed my life, helped me be a better person, wife, mother, friend and human being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 710686, member: 1233"] Given her behavior, I don't buy that she is clean. She may not be on heroin, but she is on something. If those counselors think she is doing so great, why don't they take her home with them? Yes, why counselors have given me THAT look when I have said my son was not doing well and they acted like some stupid cheerleader and said "Oh, but he is doing SO GOOD", I have 100% told them they were welcome to take him home with them to see his behaviors for themselves. Funny, but not a single, solitary one of them ever did. Not one. Ever. They all looked at me like something was wrong with ME for saying something was wrong with him. Generally that is when I started looking for a new therapist or doctor because I knew this one had no dang sense. You know something is wrong with your daughter, that her behavior is wrong. That she is a grown woman who is in the wrong. Where were you in life at age 31? I bet it was not waiting for Mommy to come and get you to fix your life. I bet you had kids and a career and a life. I bet you were using the tools you had gotten for yourself and were making your way in the world. Your daughter is making her way in the world to. She is screaming and wailing until someone fixes all her messes and treats her like a little princess and she doesn't have to work a full week a month. She has learned how to get out of it by manipulating everyone around her by having hissy fits and playing games. It is time to let her live in her own messes and stop fixing things for her. It is time for you to enjoy your life, do what you want to do, and enjoy the fruits of your own labors. You work hard, and have for a very long time. there is no reason to waste your work on a person who wants to not work. Let her go and not work out on the streets until she gets tired of that and chooses to pull her life together and use the brain in her head and her college education to get a job and support herself. Until then, and until she can behave like a reasonable human being with reasonable boundaries, she doesn't need to be around you. Read the recommended books. They will change your life. Go to AlAnon or NarcAnon Family Group Meetings. They will change your life. Addiction is a family illness. The whole family is ill. I know. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My brother is an alcoholic, thankfully in recovery. AlAnon changed my life, helped me be a better person, wife, mother, friend and human being. [/QUOTE]
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