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She's Gone Again...and I'm okay...for now
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 653328" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>That was predictable. I would shut off her ATM while she is using.</p><p></p><p>You do not have to answer the phone, listen to voicemail or read texts. Is it tempting? At first. But you know certain people will only be either asking for stuff or abusing you. I have set my new phone to ring tones so I recognize who is calling me and unfamiliar numbers go to voicemail, which I start to listen to and then delete if they are toxic. Texts...two words will tell you if you should read the rest.If your phone has a block feature, you can use that until you are ready to communicate again.</p><p></p><p>I hope you are doing well this morning. Meditate, take a long walk and enjoy the beautiful nature of our world, read a good book, laugh at a funny movie...these are things I have learned to do in therapy. They are aptly called "distractions." Don't dwell on the negative event. Move on to something fun.Chances are you will feel so much better afterward that her request will bother you less and you can think about your response or lack of.</p><p></p><p>I know I tend to be impulsive and when I act impulsively I always feel that the other person got the better of me because I reacted and that I let myself down by not taking time to decide what to do. I have been guilty of this in the past few days. Triggers can be lethal...they are not your friends. Move on, move on, move on.</p><p></p><p>You have done the right thing. Your daughter is old enough to get a job.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart...again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 653328, member: 1550"] That was predictable. I would shut off her ATM while she is using. You do not have to answer the phone, listen to voicemail or read texts. Is it tempting? At first. But you know certain people will only be either asking for stuff or abusing you. I have set my new phone to ring tones so I recognize who is calling me and unfamiliar numbers go to voicemail, which I start to listen to and then delete if they are toxic. Texts...two words will tell you if you should read the rest.If your phone has a block feature, you can use that until you are ready to communicate again. I hope you are doing well this morning. Meditate, take a long walk and enjoy the beautiful nature of our world, read a good book, laugh at a funny movie...these are things I have learned to do in therapy. They are aptly called "distractions." Don't dwell on the negative event. Move on to something fun.Chances are you will feel so much better afterward that her request will bother you less and you can think about your response or lack of. I know I tend to be impulsive and when I act impulsively I always feel that the other person got the better of me because I reacted and that I let myself down by not taking time to decide what to do. I have been guilty of this in the past few days. Triggers can be lethal...they are not your friends. Move on, move on, move on. You have done the right thing. Your daughter is old enough to get a job. Hugs for your hurting heart...again. [/QUOTE]
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