Hi. I'm new to this forum. It's been enlightening thus far. My issue today is my 22 yr old difficult alcoholic daughter, who I kicked out earlier this week, is on her way back home. She was kicked out for stealing her sister's debit card out of my wallet. Her older sister is 32, lives with us and has Down Syndrome. This isn't the first time Difficult Child had taken advantage of her disabled sister. When confronted she hung up on me and disappeared for 10 days. Meanwhile, my 29 yr old son, easy child, had his first child, my first grand. Daughter missed it because she was on a bender. Now she wants to come home and see the baby. I got a one word apology and a teary face cartoon sticker. She said she loved me and missed me. I held tough. I told her I loved and missed her, too.I was sad for her, but couldn't live here unless she demonstrated change and functionality. I didn't hear from her again for 24 hrs. Then a couple of young men that claimed to know her from AA meetings in another city called me asking to bring her home because she needed detox and wanted to see her new nephew. After some discussion, I agreed she could come back to get her things and see the baby (who is in NICU, as he was 7 weeks premature). I don't think I can hold up with my tough stance when I see her. I don't admit this often, but she has always been my favorite companion. We were close all her growing up years. I'm the enabler who is trying to reform. She has been through a 2 week rehab program and spent a few unsuccessful months in transitional/sober housing this past spring and summer, getting kicked out every couple of weeks. She came home in July dejected for losing a good job. I was tired of paying for her rent when she wasn't there half the time. But half the time she was sober and going to AA. She immediately went back to drinking here in my home even though we had an agreement for this to be a dry home. We don't drink, by the way.