My 18 year old freshman was suicidal/cutting/bulimic from age 13-15... hospitalized many times, and placed in residential psychiatric treatment facilities for at least 18 months.. but for past 3 years, has been doing VERY well... no medications, no depression and appears to be a successful freshman in college (about 2 hours from home). Absolutely no psychiatric issues other than test anxiety in the past 3 years. She just broke up with her wonderful boyfriend of 2 years (who a senior in high school), but shortly before she did, was contacted by a friend from school about "Tom" - a friend of hers from college who was having issues. He was threatening suicide, did take sleeping pills and alcohol and was in acute hospital setting within past few weeks. I'm not supposed to know about any of this - her ex-boyfriend shared this with me because he is concerned that SHE is spiraling down due to being around Tom. He has shared a few txts from her that say she was there when this kid threatened to kill himself, she was BEGGING him to get help and trying to distance herself from the situation but he was keeping her around... Now she calls me tonight to ask for "permission" to go on a 4 day road trip to Florida with Tom... I spoke to the family friend (a 50ish mom) in Florida where they will be staying and she assures me the kids will follow rules and be watched over. I spoke to the mom but did not confront her about the recent suicidal stuff because a) violates boyfriends confidence and b) she might not know? c) it might not be true???. She DID say that our kids share some of the same issues. But assures me he's a "good kid", etc. I'm in a position of being somewhat TERRIFIED that she is being manipulated by this kid. She told her ex-boyfriend just today via txt that she doesn't want him to see her "destroying herself like this". She's 18. She will go unless I can a) talk her out of it - which at this point seems impossible. b) find some legal means to do so. I'm still dancing around the fact that I know this kid just threatened to kill himself within a few weeks ago because it WILL destroy her trust in telling her ex-boyfriend anything as a friend. In fact, if I keep pushing it, she might stop telling anyone anything. Any ideas ???