I'm just fed up with this child, she is soooooo rude and disrespectful and mouthy!! She acts like and states that she is in charge. And it just flares up the urge in me to freak out. It's like How dare you be so rude to me!!! Part of it is the seperation and eventual divorce and part of it is that she is now talking to me like "d"h used to. I just can not get it to stop! She is on much less medications than she was a couple of weeks ago, but I don't think it's the medications. For the most part she is happy. But then all of a sudden she will just refuse to do something I ask or she will get frustrated with someting and start yelling. And then she becomes extremely disrespectful and rude and oppositional. With some defiance poking out-like she is testing the limits. But the rest is just out and out brattiness!! I have mostly addressed this in the past-when it wasn't this bad-by saying that is not how you talk to me or excuse me. In a firm but calm voice. That's not working anymore. Neither is taking away TV until she earns it by talking appropriately. She's been TV-less all week and it's the one motivator she has. I am only focusing on the important things to get done-getting ready for school and getting ready for bed (both times involve eating and medications). She's not being distructive, she just won't do what I ask her to and she is very rude in her refusals. Or if she wants something that I will not let her have, she demands it like she is the Queen. And it's really arbitary. The only thing that seems to help is to back off on it, give her a few minutes and then start talking to her like she never refused or was disrespectful. And then she will comply. But I feel like she is not learning that she must respect me or talk as respectfully as expected from an 8yo. I want to nip this in the bud but I can't seem to. She will talk about it after the incident and apologize and understand why it's not okay to say whatever it was. But it keeps happening. With the school's help, we've gotten homework going a lot better. She is also getting to school on time more often. And she is doing different chores than before and is actually doing them without a hassle. So I don't get it!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!