Well, not even a week goes by and I believe the honeymooning phase is coming to an end. Shocking. I visited difficult child yesterday. She said she was going to be honest and that she had thought about bolting a couple of times, but that she was still there and still sober. Made me nervous to hear that, but as she said, she was just being honest with her feelings. She said that she does like the place so that is positive. But... First of all, difficult child was supposed to apply for food stamps. As of yesterday, she hadn't "because no one showed her how". Hmm. Sorry, I am doing my part by paying for it all - she needs to be doing her part and that includes applying for food stamps. :/ I have purchased over a hundred dollars worth of food this week for her - I am not paying another dime until she has applied for them. Second, there is a boy there. Looks like your ideal all-American boy - if I could describe him, I would say he looks as all-American as apple pie. You would NEVER look at this man on the streets and think he ever did drugs. He has six months of sobriety. difficult child is crushing. Suddenly, she feels there is nothing she can do to help A hole in jail. (rolling eyes, yet before boy came along and I told her that, I didn't know what I was talking about). I warned her that she is not supposed to be getting into a relationship and that it would jeopardize what she is trying to do and she got mad at me and said he is what is keeping her there. Oh great. Just what I wanted to hear. NOT GOOD. It is like she is sabotaging herself. I am losing hope rapidly. I put a message in to the lady that runs the program. I want to be sure difficult child doesn't think I am going to just pay her way while she sits back, does nothing and doesn't really work the program. I have tried to make it as clear as I possibly can to difficult child that if she leaves the program, or is kicked out for ANY reason, our support stops. The phone contract is ended permanently and she is not to call us. We would want nothing to do with her at this time. And that is a hard step to take. She doesn't seem to care, though. The lady that runs the program told her we had to do that to save her life and I honestly don't think she cared. I see disaster coming. I am trying to be as positive and supportive as I can, but it is hard. Am I right to be concerned already?