difficult child 1's three sibs are home for the holiday. We haven't kept them up on all the details of difficult child 1 and girlfriend's progress, so hearing how things are going has pretty much made them flip out. difficult child 1 had a relapse with both drinking and Ativan use; he actually OD'd on Ativan and girlfriend didn't call 911 or us; I saw difficult child 1 thirty-six hours later and he still had very high levels. But he wasn't in danger of respiratory arrest and basically needed to be weaned off the benzos at that point and he refused to see anyone. He's trying depakote now for a mood stabilizer and has major GI issues with it, but his psychiatrist (a PA actually) wants him to continue. We don't see much of him, and when that happens it usually means he's drinking. girlfriend still isn't back at work. difficult child 1 tells me she's supposed to go back the first week of December. So where her half of the rent and utilities are going to come from, heaven knows. Obviously she figures it's all coming from us. We haven't made up our minds yet; if they get evicted for nonpayment of rent it will have more effect on difficult child 1 than on her. And the sibs are livid about all of it. difficult child 1 and girlfriend are supposed to be coming over for Thanksgiving dinner early this afternoon. It's not going to be one of those idealized Norman Rockwell scenes, that's for sure. Wish us luck.